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@lesbians Lida Heymann was a German #lesbian feminist. She would be 157 years old today.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lida/_Heymann

@lesbians God forbid a #lesbian likes to dress like a ghost.

@lesbians Vita Sackville-West was a British #lesbian author and garden designer. She would be 133 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vita/_Sackville-West

@lesbians Edith Ellis was a British #lesbian author and activist. She would be 164 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Edith/_Ellis

it was around 1am and i was trying to sleep, and suddenly i thought “what if i get back with my ex from sixth grade?” (i’m still friends with her)

i started to get a warm and fuzzy feeling, so i was like “ruh oh raggy… i can’t get another crush again…”

she’s straight now, and my tired brain decided it was one of those things where i’d understand if she said no and continue to be her friend but would be like “yeah, why not” if we dated 🤷‍♀️

i thought that even if i was an immature ass at 12, i could be better and we could try again now.

however, when i woke up, my feelings completely vanished and i had no desire to date her at all.

@lesbians You wanna get something done, get a #lesbian.

huh? why is everybody here so gosh darn adorable?

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/22189318

(figured more people would give advice/relate because it’s a lesbian community [“the idk how women like men romantically” part] and also because i don’t see any comments/nor do i think the other community i posted in was good for breakup advice/rants.)

(im going to say that im a lesbian, first off, and maybe i just feel this way about relationships with men because i’m in a bad spot, or in other words, pissed.)

part of the reason i broke up with my boyfriend of almost 3 years was because i figured out im a lesbian and couldn’t see myself dating nor attracted to a man.

the other part? he wasn’t there for me as of recent.

he was pansexual and i was a gay/bi trans guy. i met him through a friend, and he lost contact with the friend sometime after he met me and only we talked (our only mutual friend after that was some VERY controversial guy from tiktok but due to said controversy, we stopped being in contact with him and he blocked us).

a lot of the new friends we made on his discord server started to make silly jokes about us, like “get a room you two!” or “are you sure you guys aren’t dating?” it was very casual, i had feelings for him so i was just like “ if he wants to 🤷‍♀️” and he replied with “yeah ok why not :)”

so after that, we were a couple. we talked a lot as friends, we talked a lot as boyfriends. then i got a girlfriend (the deal was that we could date if we knew about the people, and he knew about my gf). we broke up the first time and she acted really cruel (saying i abused/assaulted her, either acted this way because i was a guy or because i was trans. maybe both). this made me feel terrible for MONTHS due to having bad-ish attachment issues.

i detransitioned after that, since the very thought of being a man reminded me of our relationship/breakup.

he, however, was there for me during it. at least, when he could be.

there would be periods that would last several weeks where i would hear nothing from him. even when i would see he read my messages and posted on social media, he would not respond to my messages. ever.

then he would be like, “sorry, i was at work” or “sorry, i was staying at someone’s house for a while”. i was quite forgiving and was honestly just worried about him.

then, it happened more frequently, again and again. he would hardly say he loved me or show any affection. my “friend” told me this was normal in relationships and thought i was crazy for thinking otherwise.

sometimes, he would say he loved me and actually be there for me, but he recently started leaving me on read again. i broke up with him and decided i was a lesbian since i kind of lost feelings and couldn’t see myself with a man or even attracted to one.

[so, im still kind of pissed at him, confused about my attraction a little, and at a rocky relationship with my “friend” and girlfriend.]

(sorry, mods, ik i’m talking about a straight relationship but im a lesbian now so im posting here)

she’s just not a very active person online. when she is, shes only active in group chats with her friends.

usually, she talks about video games, and is actually offline because she plays video games almost all the time.

is there any way to salvage the relationship? she’s too focused on her interests to be interested in mine, and like I said, is almost always playing games so we barely talk aside from: “hi ❤️” “Hi sweetie ❤️” “hru??” “Good, just playing games, you?” “good :)) im listening to music” and then the conversation ends because she doesn’t message first and is busy with the other stuff.

(i have tried talking to her and she says she’s usually busy. shes either genuinely busy, busy with games, or in a bad mood and doesn’t feel like talking [sad/tired])

@lesbians #lesbian

Hello, I'm Voytek.

I'm non-binary and technically sapphic (pan), IDK if I count but here I am!!

Also, would it be ok to post updates on my (male) crush?? :)

yeah, i’ll probably seek advice on this community a lot now that I’ve found it.

so this girl nadya acts like she’s kind of avoiding but kind of not, it’s so weird. nadya and i used to be quite close since we met 3 years ago.

nadya has been really quiet lately though, specifically around me. she considers us friends and continues to talk to me, and will be normal sometimes. sometimes she smiles and waves back so i know she doesn’t HATE me.

anyway, i’m putting this under Lesbians bc i’m wlw (or more specifically, nblw) and i like this girl 😓

i guess what I’m trying to say is that she acts differently around me, but it doesn’t seem all negative?

I’m not certain she’s interested in me since this one “mean girl” thinks nadya likes her and very well may, but i wanna know what this might mean, especially as an enby with a sapphic crush 😅 (if i qualify as sapphic)

i think most people can relate to this 😅 lol

(posting to here bc it’s my actual lesbian community)

Okay, that’s good for you that you thought you only liked women until you met your boyfriend, but that doesn’t mean that some man is gonna magically make me like men more.

I’m probably a biromantic lesbian because there are men I would still date, and they’re sorta like exceptions for me.

Whenever the topic comes up/I mention it for whatever reason, maybe for advice, whatever, I tell my friend (gf's friend, acquaintance i just met, or not a close friend who i talk to a lot), and they say something like “Oh, I used to think I only liked girls too until I met my handsome boyfriend ❤️”

And: “Maybe one day a man will change your life and point of view just like a man changed mine <33”

I’m happy for you and your BF, and I’m glad that you figured out you liked men too. I’m happy it worked for you, but like I said, some people aren’t attracted to men. A man isn’t going to “fix them” or “change their life”.

I don’t need a man to make me realize that I really like guys all along or anything. I get that some people are just trying to relate to the situation and that’s fine, but I’ve gotten this response a lot and needed to rant a little.

I guess “vamos lésbicas” 🇧🇷

And in the language I’m learning: “chodźmy lesbijki” 🇵🇱

:3

Hi lezzies!

I am a new-ish lesbian, just realized 1.5 years ago.

How goes it? And how has there not already been a lezzy group here? On the queerest instance I know?