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[–] ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I'm a pervert, and goatse is pretty normal to me nowadays, and almost can perform it IRL.

[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I mean I don't want to encourage behavior that is probably not healthy for your body, but it doesn't really hurt other people (unless you're sending pictures or videos of it to other people to harass them) and it's not quite extreme enough to really count as selfharm, so it's kinda whatever.

[–] ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

The whole "what if it hurts you" argument when it comes to more extreme fetishes is just kinkshaming/homophobia, and was like the main argument of homophobes in the 2000's. Even normal anal sex has its dangers of harm. "If you have buttsex, you will immediately become incontinent, and poop yourself." - something I've heard on the daily.

Sports, even regular, non-extreme ones, have their own dangers. I know a former social worker, who knew a lot of former, disabled sportsmen on the streets. Is there a massive outrage? No.

I'll be into large anal insertions no matter what. No problem with continence so far.

[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 3 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

IMO it's a valid concern with this kind of thing, the issue is where you go from there - you could easily use this to outlaw certain practices entirely, or you just do research and make an effort about informing people about the dangers (if any) and how to do it more safely. And yes, I do also disapprove of the kinds of sports that frequently lead to disabilities, especially if the sportsmen and -women aren't properly informed or even coerced (definitely a concern in professional sports).

No problem with continence so far.

AFAIK this will often be a concern in later years, as the tissues becomes less elastic etc. with age. On top of that, a lot of the media around anal are promoting harmful practices - anal fissures are definitely unhealthy and can lead to dangerous infections. Not saying you are practicing or promoting harmful practices, but it's common.