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Straight and I feel this.
If I may be so bold, I would suggest that this is about becoming your own person in growing up, and that we all have to learn what is us versus what we were taught. What we were taught that we believe to be true, and what we were taught that we now know is bullshit.
I will grant you that the LGBTQ+ community have additional layers to pick through, though.
That's not really what the tweet is describing though.
This tweet is specifically about the fake persona that we have to craft for people so we don't get hate crimed for merely existing. Pretending we're straight for years and causing insane amounts of mental anguish, having to hide whole core parts of who you are because your parents might not approve and possibly indeed don't, having to live as a man when you know you're a woman because you're afraid someone is going to kidnap you off the street. That's what the tweet is talking about. That living your life as the image everyone else wants you to be for so long it starts to become difficult who you are and who your portrayal is for everyone else. So when you do come out, there's a massive amount of figuring out that you've got to do. Do you talk like this because it's how you naturally talk or is it because your natural voice would have people stare? Do you walk different? The innate fear you get when you first hold someones hand in public. Not just the fear of homophobia, but the fear internally about is this really who you are.
Being queer comes with an insane amount of second guessing literally every single part of yourself because who you are isn't you. It's who you had to become to survive.
Not saying that Cis people can't relate, just clarifying what was meant here by the tweet. It's not just parsing coding that you've gotten from your parents but from society as a whole because you were terrified of being killed otherwise.