I'm part of this crowd too, sorry π
I did, though, just recently do some hard-selling to some folks I care about, toward this instance (and Lemmy in general in some cases), as just a better place to hang out, a previously ~impossible-to-find "home" on the interwebz. My primary reason for doing that was your exemplary approach toward governance, and the way this place works as a result (I know that's not solely down to you, lol, relax!).
Your concern about this sounds like exactly the kind of refusal of authority (including your own) that makes this place lovely.
Like it or not, true leaders arise naturally, and are followed by those who like what they see. Entirely distinct from any hierarchical structure imposing "leadership" (authority).
I'm certain that you understand that far better than me.
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it is, then, for shorthand - but if you really hate that, I'll change my own budding habits π€·ββοΈ