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Stella Barey made a name for herself on TikTok during the first months of the pandemic talking about how much she loved anal. “The level of isolation pushed me there,” she says, recalling the moment everything started to change for her.

Barey would go on to flip her TikTok fame into OnlyFans riches. In her first month on the adult platform, she says, she made $8,000. The following month it skyrocketed to $40,000, and eventually she got so popular that she pulled in $300,000 in 30 days. “It was five-and-a-half years of posting on multiple different platforms every single day, multiple times a day,” Barey says. She liked the taste of success. But the demands of the industry also weighed on her, and by 2025, Barey, who felt she and her peers deserved better working conditions, decided to build her own platform.

In April, she launched Hidden, the first adult platform owned and operated by sex workers. Billed as the “anti-OnlyFans,” Hidden is out to prove that fairer industry conditions are possible when the people in charge actually come from the world they are profiting on.

Hidden is the TikTok version of OnlyFans—a seamlessly, and sleekly, designed creator-friendly platform where, in lieu of Korean skin-care tips and Get Ready With Me videos, you’ll find a ForYou page with videos that features all sorts of adult content: from oral and BDSM to dildo play and lingerie videos.

“In this industry, no one expects that anyone's going to be able to change anything. We have to drive all the traffic from our social media to OnlyFans by ourselves. And we're getting more and more burnt out every year, because all of the promotion relies on us.” To fix that, Barey built Hidden around discoverability. “Innovation like adding a ForYou page makes it easier for girls to build up promo. It creates an ecosystem where we're all bringing fans that are circulating to everybody,” which helps girls who don’t have large followings, she says.

Hidden is all about giving creators more control, and many of its features reflect that mission by creating avenues for “passive income and promotion,” Barey says. Hidden takes an 18 percent cut (compared to 20 percent on OnlyFans). It also has charge-back protections up to $2,500, which deters customers from falsely disputing payments with their credit card companies and getting refunds. There is a creator store for people who may want to “buy 50 videos in the middle of the night,” she says, noting that about 80 percent of a creator’s income is “made in the messages, selling long-form videos or special bundles.” Every creator also has a liaison who is familiar with their account and will respond within 24 hours to any questions. All of these features exist in one form or another on other adult sites. Hidden just happens to bring them together for the first time.

“I've made the large majority of my money on OnlyFans, so I can't hate at all on it,” Barey says of Hidden marketing itself as the anti-OnlyFans. “They exist in the same realm. But I guess Hidden just offers things that I have felt for a really long time we were always missing.”

This month, OnlyFans CEO Keily Blair announced on LinkedIn that the platform will start running background checks on people signing up as content creators in the US, XBIZ first reported. Blair didn’t clarify whether the platform will prohibit all types of criminal convictions, but, Barey says, “if this is the way that the world's going to go, it’s going to go this way. But sex work is not going to go away. And until it's completely banned, what we're doing is fully legal.” Pornhub has a similar verification process in place for creators.

OnlyFans did not immediately respond to a request for comment.

On December 4, Hidden will host its first Goon-A-Thon event, where it will announce porn star Lana Rhoades as its new co-owner and chief creative operator. The company is also rolling out new site features, including a creator leader board, a daily index of the site’s top 20 earners. The creators who land the most sales and the users who spend the most money will be rewarded with up to $30,000 in prizes after 24 hours.

Rhoades is no stranger to the world of porn and has won just about every industry award. (Pornhub awarded her Most Popular Female Performer two years in a row.) Though she no longer actively films, Rhoades says she wants to help Barey build a platform where “creators are treated like collaborators.” It’s an experience that doesn’t happen anymore. “There’s a huge lack of transparency. Creators are often left guessing about shadowbans, payout issues, or why their content suddenly stops performing. And because most platforms are built by people outside the industry, the policies and product decisions often feel disconnected from what creators actually need in practice. Most of the corporate alternatives in this space were created by people who have never posted a single piece of content. They don’t understand the risks, the pressure, the customer dynamics, or the creative side.” Rhoades believes Hidden can be different “because the people running it have lived it.”

Currently, Hidden has 115,000 users (mostly men) and more than 2,200 creators (mostly women).

It’s still early days for Hidden, but long-term plans, Rhoades says, include building “a real creative ecosystem” that spans a clothing line, feature films, educational symposiums, and live events. The site also plans to slowly add in AI features, including customer relationship management (CRM), which Barey says will help with pricing, organizing messages, and customer insight. “It's about $200 to $300 a month for creators. So we're building that in for free,” she says.

“A lot of people have told me there will never be anything except OnlyFans,” Barey says. She isn’t deterred by the doubts. “With all of these changes [around age-verification laws] and the rise of conservatism, it's been really nice knowing that I’ve already built this platform that we’re not all going to just get kicked off of tomorrow.”

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[–] MonkRome@lemmy.world 4 points 2 hours ago (2 children)

Stella Barey defends sexual predator Andrew Tate... Lana Rhoades is a scammer. This business is just about money and nothing else. Moronic to post their advertising.

[–] ooli3@sopuli.xyz 1 points 2 hours ago

Blame my lack of your extended knowledge about porn stars

[–] LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world 0 points 1 hour ago

Imagine that. Sex workers with fucked-up morals scamming for money. Unheard of.

[–] Stalinwolf@lemmy.ca 7 points 5 hours ago (2 children)

Sometimes I think about anonymously posting my feet or dangling turtle-head just to see where it goes. Probably nowhere. Nobody wants this, shy of my wife who entertains it. But what if?

Fuck it, go for it.

[–] Jinni@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 hours ago

If you do, let me know. I'll give you some attention bro 😉

[–] tangonov@lemmy.ca 7 points 10 hours ago

"We wanted to create a platform where I don't have to work so hard for 300,000 per month" is what I get from this. The majority of people don't see this for working two full time jobs.

[–] AwesomeLowlander@sh.itjust.works 39 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

'anti OF', because they take 18% instead of 20%. This is just a new competitor 1 step from enshittifying. How did a marketing piece like this get upvoted so heavily?

[–] pulsewidth@lemmy.world 15 points 13 hours ago

Yeah I was mildly hopeful of a less exploitative platform rising until I saw that.

Absolutely no guarantee they won't up it to 20% once they get bigger too - or even just sell out to OnlyFans and walk off millionaires. Competition is good I guess, maybe they'll encourage OF to adopt some of their more creator-positive policies.. About the only good I can see coming from it.

[–] otter@lemmy.dbzer0.com 15 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) (1 children)

Yeah, because the original Suicide Girls was founded from similar notions and did so incredibly well...

[–] SlartyBartFast@sh.itjust.works 3 points 4 hours ago

Suicide Girls were so great

[–] BassTurd@lemmy.world 73 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Other than this being a long ad for a product I'm personally not interested in, it still pissed me off that they specifically mentioned they are going to add AI features. It's inescapable and I hate it.

[–] binarytobis@lemmy.world 7 points 23 hours ago

I certainly know nothing gets me revved up like AI integration features on my porn site.

[–] Zizzy@lemmy.blahaj.zone 86 points 1 day ago (1 children)

“A lot of people have told me there will never be anything except OnlyFans,”

Ok but like im certain there are already alternatives. And they didnt really spell out the problem they want to tackle. They ambigously say more control? The closest thing i actually see is site takes 18% instead of 20? Laana rhoades, the grifter and con artist os a co owner? This article just feels like a big ad they paid for.

Kinda wish i didnt waste my time reading that. Dont even know why because it doesnt pertain to me anyways.

[–] pennomi@lemmy.world 28 points 1 day ago

Right, this is only an incremental improvement, if that. Really a good platform would be structured as a co-op and avoid this rent seeking structure.

[–] atro_city@fedia.io 18 points 22 hours ago

https://removepaywalls.com/https://www.wired.com/story/sex-workers-built-an-anti-onlyfans-to-take-control-of-their-profits/

So not my world. Never heard of either of these women. (Stella Barey and Ms Rhoades). I hope that creator-owned means they don't become what they hate. Only time will tell.

[–] gustofwind@lemmy.world 91 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I think you mean they built another onlyfans

[–] Ek-Hou-Van-Braai@piefed.social 32 points 1 day ago (1 children)

We need a decentralised onlyFans 😅

[–] Maiq@piefed.social 13 points 23 hours ago

fediFans maybe onlyVerse?

From reading the article, it looks like it's a cross between OF and tiktok. OF, as far as I understand it, doesn't allow discovery of content like tiktok does.

Sure it offers you suggested people to follow but you can't actually see their content unless you pay. Though I expect OF to respond in kind and move toward that direction to keep their creators happy.

[–] Jayjader@jlai.lu 19 points 1 day ago (2 children)

This does feel like a puff piece that someone, somehow, convinced Wired to write. Especially given that I've stumbled on a different Onlyfans-style website that has a much more interesting economical model than tiered subscriptions, in my opinion. Can't remember the name of the website, but the basic idea was that once a certain piece of content has been purchased by enough individual users, it becomes free-to-access by all. And the content's creator gets to define the threshold over which the content becomes free/public.

This website had content by Amouranth and f1nnster, I'm not sure if it's more of a site for twitch streamer side hustles or what.

[–] NotMyOldRedditName@lemmy.world 2 points 15 hours ago

I'm pretty sure a vast majority of articles like this are paid content, no need to convince anyone.

[–] otter@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Is that the same Amouranth with the shady AF exploitation IRL? Just curious if it's their newer content (sans abuser) or archived from said era. 🤷🏼‍♂️

[–] Jayjader@jlai.lu 2 points 10 hours ago

Yes, that same Amouranth - no idea when their content was made, and I don't know [their content] enough to tell.

[–] iamdefinitelyoverthirteen@lemmy.world 26 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Lana Rhoades? You mean the porn actress that did a crypto scam a few years ago?

[–] TheBat@lemmy.world 33 points 1 day ago

Swindling cryptobros is based af

[–] UltraMagnus0001@lemmy.world 4 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Nice no need for a middleman

[–] Couldbealeotard@lemmy.world 13 points 17 hours ago

Isn't this just a new middleman? This is just what Didi is to Uber. It's a competitor platform whose marketing equates to "the ~~employees~~ sole traders will get a slightly bigger share then the other platform. Look how sanctimonious we are!". After getting market share they will be free to alter the deal. Co-owner by a successful industry professional? This is a business venture, not a charity.

[–] rozodru@pie.andmc.ca 44 points 1 day ago (1 children)

the adult industry has been like this for decades. Good idea, exploit good idea, alternative idea to good idea, repeat.

This isn't the first time individual adult content creators have tried to take back and recoup profits for themselves. Happened over a decade ago with industry "tube" sites. Users created their own content delivery sites, bigger adult companies bought them up while continue to allow users to upload content, cut payouts to said amateur creators, creators start new platform, repeat. I was there, I managed some of those sites personally when they got bought. Onlyfans creator should be thankful they don't also have to deal with affiliate networks that people used to have to deal with years and years ago.

It's the nature of the beast in porn. I'm not knocking Rhodes at all but she should know better. the whole "Creators treated as Collaborators" has been attempted so many times I've lost count. Just look what happened to Sasha Grey's last attempt at that.

If they manage to set up something good then it'll eventually either be bought out or ripped off by Manwin, that's a damn guarantee. And lets not act like OnlyFans is an original idea, it's not. Southern-Charms has essentially been doing it for decades and is STILL doing it to this day.

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[–] binarytobis@lemmy.world 9 points 23 hours ago

Getting in the minds of an OF subscriber is hard for me, but don’t subscribers usually find the person through other social media then follow a “See me on !” link? It seems like it should be easy to host your content on one of a hundred services more worker-oriented. Maybe the problem is people already have accounts on OF, making it easier to spend money?

In any case her new service sounds just as bad as OF so I can’t imagine it will take off.

[–] brucethemoose@lemmy.world 29 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

…The name though.

“Hidden”?

I tried to find it via search a few times, but being a generic descriptor it seems impossible. No news site will even link it! FYI the site is hidden.com

[–] Ghoelian@piefed.social 9 points 1 day ago (4 children)

That domain must have cost a fortune to get as well

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[–] Toneswirly@beehaw.org 19 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Seems like an only-slightly less exploitative alternative.

[–] pennomi@lemmy.world 14 points 1 day ago

2% less, apparently.

[–] Speculater@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago

They "only" take 18 percent instead of 20!

[–] brucethemoose@lemmy.world 16 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

As an aside, speaking as a, err, horny male, I don’t get OF.

…Why wouldn’t I just swipe redgifs, for free? Or a bajillion other clones? Which I bring up mostly because it’s closest to the TikTok/Insta style format.

[–] KindnessIsPunk@lemmy.ca 15 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] brucethemoose@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Is completely failing to understand that, failing to envision how someone could desire that, a neurodivergence thing?

…Thinking back to my school, I feel like it is.

No sir, it means you're sane.

[–] atro_city@fedia.io 6 points 1 day ago

For some people it's the only way they think they can have a romantic, human connection.

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[–] Grimy@lemmy.world 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Stella Barey made a name for herself on TikTok during the first months of the pandemic talking about how much she loved anal. “The level of isolation pushed me there,” she says, recalling the moment everything started to change for her.

I mean, I don't have that many friends either and feel a bit isolated, but anal doesn't seem like an actual solution.

[–] cryptiod137@lemmy.world 3 points 16 hours ago

Well you'll definitely feel connected and intimate, and throwing that ass back should be a great way to make friends

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