cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/35361786

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Testosterone and it's link to aggression (or lack of thereof)

I found an article with many linked studies on how testosterone affects aggression. The article is centered around cis men with baseline low testosterone levels that started TRT, however, I do think this applies to transmasculine people as well. Posting this because even in trans communities this topic is misunderstood.

TL;DR: individuals with low testosterone levels at baseline that started TRT report decreased levels of aggression, fatigue, tension. Current studies don't report any changes of aggression on average, however, this may wary depending on personality profiles (for example: people with high dominance and low self control traits did become aggressive, but the testosterone itself is not the cause of the aggression)

https://www.trted.org/articles/myth-busting-series-testosterone-treatment-makes-you-aggressive

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Some of my trans dude wins

I just remembered this community exists, though a bit dead, so let me write some of my life updates (and test if wafrn federates with lemmy well enough)

• Got endocrinologist after migrating to new country, turns out my T levels were very low, not changing the dosage yet, but will switch to Nebido and we'll see how it works

• My bros bought me a new binder that fits me very well! It's hard for me to breathe even in oversized binders though, so will wear only on special occasions. But I'm glad that I don't have to be a shrimp all the time

• Moustache is a bit more visible, like not really grown yet, especially considering my T levels and genetically not very lucky with facial hair, but I'm glad that at least it grows.

• Dysphoria induced dissociation when I look in the mirror has completely stopped. Also a huge win

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#ftm #transmasc #trans #transgender

I haven't gotten a binder in like 15 years or so, so I don't know where to find a binder online nowadays. I'm looking for something lightweight/breathable, durable and sensory-friendly, and ships to the US. Any good recommendations?

So far I've come across Wivov and Origami Customs, but I haven't ordered anything yet. Just wanna make sure I'm spending money on something I will be comfortable wearing.

I appreciate any help or advice!

Sometimes I go by they,

and also sometimes he

and also sometimes she

but also always me

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/32737264

AFAB genderfluid here. You have very limited information, I know that, but whatever.

My dad came from a quite traditional family. He used to be transphobic himself and was a little weirded out when I came out as a boy on some days, but my mom was always open-minded and my dad learned to accept it.

His sister, on the other hand, never learned to accept it and stayed the same: supportive of me liking men and women, but seemingly not supportive of me being genderfluid.

One day, I said I was on my period, and she said "Boys don't get periods, so you're a girl". When I first came out, she said "Well I accept you no matter what my beautiful niece" and is always trying to get me to look and be more feminine. She tried to get me to wear a skirt a bit ago when I'm usually a guy, not a girl, and I also don't really like wearing skirts as a guy.

I’ve been on testosterone for a long time and pass pretty well.

There’s rumblings of potential bans for trans health care.

What would prohibit me from going to a low T clinic, pretending to be cis, and getting a script as a low T cis man?

Hello, I am looking to meet some other transmascs and/or FtMs and potentially even make a friend or two. I thought I'd ask some questions to get the ball rolling!

• What is your favorite piece of clothing in your wardrobe that gives you euphoria?
• Can you name one small thing you're looking forward to in your transition?
• What is your favorite animal, mythical creature, or cryptid?

Looking forward to seeing some responses!

Now, I’m nonbinary femme, but I remember talking to my aunt about being a boy and I told her I was having cramps when she one day, asked me why my stomach hurt.

She told me, “I thought you were a boy. Boys don’t get period cramps. I guess that makes you a girl all along.”

I wanna look really buff and strong but I also wanna look kinda feminine and cute :3

cross-posted from: https://beehaw.org/post/21928426

I spent so much of my life trying to shout my truth loud enough that no one could take it from me. I thought if I didn’t fight for every inch of who I am, the world would snatch it back while I slept. Maybe I wasn’t wrong. Maybe that fight was needed for me. But him? He doesn’t shout. He doesn’t bargain with the world for permission.

He just is.

He knows who he is in a way I never did. And in that calm, he’s teaching me a freedom I never thought possible: the freedom of not needing society’s permission.

Still, I am terrified. I watch laws get drafted by people who’ve never met him, never sat across from him at breakfast while he laughs about Pokémon or asks for more syrup. I watch grown adults spin cruel stories about kids like mine, and I want to roar, raise my fists, stand between him and a world that wants him small, hidden, undone.

He just shrugs. They can’t make me not me, he says.

He’s right. Laws can make his life harder, crueller, less safe, but they can’t strip him of who he is.

I saw and was upset by the way trans men are treated in some of the other trans spaces on this platform about a month ago, and it has been making me think about yall a lot. It made me do some introspection about my own experiences, and I realized that trans men were either not present or not visible in the male spaces I (a cis man) was part of growing up. I saw another meme about gender affirming male lonliness, and it hit me with a "bro, you're just like me" kinda vibe.

My conclusion is that like... I want to try to more proactively accept and advocate for trans men. This is somewhat hampered by the fact that ive never known any trans men well, and I dont really know much about your experience. Bluntly, I'm a bit ignorant and I'd like to change that. I've got a few questions that I'll list below, but also like I'd love it if you want to just say hi and chat and tell me about yourself. Anyway, here goes

1. Do you engage in or participate in traditional male spaces?

2. If yes to 1, are you open about being trans in these spaces? Do you feel excluded or discriminated against in these spaces due to being trans?

3. If no to 1, do you want to be part of these spaces?

Finally, I want to apologize if this post is offensive. I promise that is not my intent, and if i am being offensive it is purely out of ignorance. If you do find me offensive, I would hugely appreciate if you explained how and why I am being offensive so I can try to learn from it and do better in the future

I try to be open about the fact that I’m trans on apps like Feeld, but it attracts an annoying amount of straight dudes/straight couples looking for fun.

Grindr is basically just guys looking for sex.

Taimi seems to want you to pay for everything, and it also seems entirely straight dudes.

I’m not really into the bar scene. I used to do art classes and stuff but I’m broke now and those are mostly women.

If you haven’t read about Lou Sullivan, you are missing out. Getting access to HRT and surgery was historically contingent on you presenting as heterosexual and conforming to rigid gender expectations. Lou fought against that, he fought for gay trans men, and really trans men in general.

I have a copy of his diaries, which inspire me when I read. It’s transness as desire rather than rejection. That above all the want to be a man, rather than the movement away from being a “woman.”

Not me, but if you’ve been following the drama, they removed this post about the unique issues we face as “divisive.”

It fucking sucks. There’s been a lot of discussion in other trans masc spaces about “transandrophobia” and this seems to absolutely demonstrate it. We aren’t treated seriously in spaces that should be welcoming for us.

People assume “trans” means trans woman. Spaces for trans people are often for trans women. Jamison Green wrote a while back about us not really having our own community, decades ago, and it still feels true today.

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/28783084

How trying to define ourselves or others define us by assigned sex at birth doesn't serve us and is generally oppressive and incorrect, both scientifically and socially.

Is it legal in the US to get mail delivered to your chosen name when you haven't changed it legally?

Ever since I was around 16, I started to feel different. I had this urge to become really buff and more of a tomboy. While this itself doesn't indicate me being trans, and I was very much a woman, I then started to feel like I wanted to take testosterone at the end of age 16/beginning of age 17. However, I was still a minor and my parents would have thought (and I thought right that they would say this) that it would mess me up forever, even if I'd still be their kid.

Lately, I created a persona, a sort of manifestation of my thoughts: a persona named Oliver. He's how I express my urges and feelings. My feelings to be a buff prince or some sort of gentleman. I know I for sure want to take testosterone.

when i was around 7 or 8, i was convinced i was actually born a boy and my family was lying to me. i wanted short hair too. i didn’t like to wear dresses or stereotypically girly stuff and i wanted to wear men’s clothes. i wanted to hang out with the other boys and it always seemed like the “boy world” was more my thing at that age than the girl world i was expected to enter.

content warning: transphobia

i don't get why there will be some people will be like "i don't care what trans people do, it doesn't hurt me" but then constantly make fun of them, bully them, make memes about them, and talk about how trans women are men (since i see it with trans women especially). seriously, as a transmasc enby, you don't have to accept ME specifically but i won't talk to you. even though you should accept people, if you don't, at least try to be nice and don't make memes about them and bully them and call them delusional. i feel like i can feel their hateful personalities through the screen, ugh. be polite and show respect.

if i'm expressing myself, for example, why do you have to bring me down? i'm NOT hurting you. and why does it matter their assigned gender at birth? all that matters is how they identify now. respect should not have to be earned (though i believe it can be lost through people who intentionally hurt others, etc.). all people have irreplaceable value and deserve respect.