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[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 45 minutes ago

I had penile inversion 7 years ago.

but is there a hood that they expand out of, and what is the feeling like just in general and when touched?

I have a clitoral hood. Obviously, I can't compare the experience to a cis experience, but what I can say is that my clitoris is far more sensitive than it was before bottom surgery. I put that down to it being under a hood and lubricated now (I was circumcised previously). Of note though, I had basically no sensitivity at all there for the first couple of months after surgery, as they nerves recovered

Do any methods apart from ppt and the other one where they put anal tissue in have lube occur naturally? If so how does this occur?

Yes, I lubricate. I'm not sure what my surgeon did exactly, but I lubricate. I don't believe that is true of all penile inversion though, so it's worth researching/questioning your specific surgeon and their previous patients.

Does the inside of any of the methods feel like endogynous vaginas over time or does it feel like flat skin or whatever no matter how much time there has been?

Similar, but not the same? Texture wise, very similar, but the main difference is that my vaginal walls are less flexible and stretchy

One thing I will add though. I ended up having complications, and scarring, so I lost a lot of my depth. But even so, for me, it's still so much better than what I had before! 10/10 would do again

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

Your response to abuse and pain is to put more hurt in the world, and not even aimed at the person who caused the initial pain.

And that means you don't care that you're hurting trans folk. And that's transphobia. End of story.

I'll be blocking your account from this instance now, because whatever your reasoning, making the active choice to hurt people impacts the people around you. You don't get to spread the hurt just because of past hurt

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 24 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago) (7 children)

As I said, the issue here when you misgender a trans person who was abusive isn't the abusive trans person, it's every other trans person, because you've just told every trans person you know and every trans person that reads this that you don't think trans folks gender is real, that you're only humouring them as long as they're polite.

Spreading more hurt is not the right response to receiving hurt.

Well of you decide to torture someone for 10 years there will be consequence

Yep. But right now, you're arguing that all trans people should face consequences because some trans people can be abusive. Trans people are under attack around the world. We are having our rights stripped, we're being forced in to spaces with the folk most likely to abuse us, we're having our identities stripped away.

And your post here is empowering all of that. It's saying that it's ok to do those things, because a trans persons identity is a privilege, not a right.

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

I love them. Except when they sound like someone being murdered at 3am

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 29 points 20 hours ago (10 children)

The problem here is that when you misgender the abuser, when you insist that they be treated like a man, you aren't hurting the abuser, you're hurting all trans people, who are also at incredibly high risks of sexual and physical abuse themselves. Moreso when they're forced in to spaces with cis men, who are the most likely group to assault or abuse women (trans and cis).

Which is to say, the victims hurt shouldn't be a reason to spread more hurt, and put more people at risk of abuse

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Sometimes our crows sound like they're talking to each other. Not like that, but more like a half heard whisper?

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago

Unless you want to talk about transphobia, racism, LGBTQ rights etc, etc, in which case, you live on the edge constantly wondering when YT is going to demonetize you

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Peertube and pixelfed have that built in to the individual instances. It is something I'd like to see more widespread

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 2 days ago (4 children)

Most platforms have their "join lemmy" or "join Mastodon" equivalents already

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 33 points 2 days ago (6 children)

Gateways that ease the pain of entrance to the fediverse are a good thing. A single, centralised gateway that defacto controls all access to the fediverse is exactly what I'm trying to get away from

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 2 days ago (1 children)

From my perspective, that's not something I'd use, or at least, it wouldn't have been much use to me when I was a young closeted queer person in small town Australia. It wouln't have been much help finding my peers

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 days ago

Thanks! That sounds like something I need to look at

 

Thanks to Kaity Blåhaj PIx and Blåhaj Tube are up and running!

Feel free to check them out!

For now, it's just me moderating, so applications to join may not be instant. If we start to get busy, we'll onboard some more mods in the future.

Enjoy!

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Clayfield, Brisbane/Meanjin, Australia - April 2025

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This post is "FYI only" for blahaj lemmy members. It is not a debate, and is not intended for non blahaj lemmy users to weigh in and offer opinions.

I recently received reports of a feddit.uk user espousing transphobia. Specifically, this was a feddit.uk user refusing to use the word cis, repeating the "adult human female" dog whistle, and claiming that trans women are not women. I approached a member of the feddit.uk admin team and raised my concerns and sought clarification of their stance on posts like this, where the transphobia is mostly dogwhistles, and "civil disagreement" on the validity of trans folk.

I was told by the feddit.uk admin that their preferred response is this kind of transphobia is to "sort it out through discussion and voting". However, the comments in question are currently more upvoted than downvoted, and little "sorting out" has occurred. The posts remain in place.

At this point, the admin stopped responding to my messages despite being active elsewhere on lemmy. When it became clear they were ignoring my messages and had no intention of removing the posts in question, I made the decision to defederate the instance.

I know some folk agree with the feddit.uk admins approach of pushback through discussion and voting, but this instance is not designed to be that kind of space. Blahaj lemmy is meant to be a place where we can avoid the rampant transphobia universally visible on nearly every other social media platform, and where we can exist without needing to debate our right to do so.

 

Buddina, Sunshine Coast, Australia - April 2025

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Kedron Brook Wetlands Reserve, Brisbane/Meanjin, Australia - April 2025

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Kedron Brook Wetlands Reserve, Brisbane/Meanjin, Australia - April 2025

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Kedron Brook Wetlands Reserve, Brisbane/Meanjin, Australia - April 2025

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The wonderful @supakaity@lemmy.blahaj.zone has developed a script to help deal with DM spam.

With this script, when a user is permabanned, DMs sent from the account in the previous 24 hours will automatically be marked as deleted.

We have set the time to 24 hours to ensure that the majority of pre-existing (non spam) DMs are preserved in the event of an account being banned. That being said, if you lose a DM to this script that you need recovered, please reach out to myself or Kaity, and we can restore it manually for you!

 

Clayfield, Meanjin/Brisbane, Australia - March 2025

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Kedron Brook Wetlands Reserve, Australia - March 2025

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