Domi

joined 3 weeks ago
[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 hour ago

Yes! I hate that the world that we live in makes it so fucking unbearable but I do want to be trans. Being trans is good actually. I fucking love trans people and I would never want to live in a world without us.

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 hour ago

Cool username. Also slaay.

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 day ago

Absolutely same for me too. Can't recommend it enough.

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 days ago

Yeah you got it. Apparently her character was originally written as a transphobic bit (haha wouldn't it be funny if the socially awkward guy went on a date and it turned out the date was trans), but I think the actor really took it seriously and the writers consulted with trans advocacy groups and they brought on a trans woman to consult formally and make sure Hayley wasnt just a characature. It wasn't perfect by any means but it was really interesting to compare with now where a trans person's inclusion would be considered a pure political statement and the hate machine would immediately spin into overdrive.

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 3 days ago

You did good sis.

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 3 days ago

Totally not me 2 years ago.

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 5 days ago

That's what I want! I think i found a place near me, and I saw a Google review from a trans woman who said they were kind and affirmative. I'm still working up the courage.

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

You have awesome energy :3

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 5 days ago (2 children)

When you bought your nice wig did you spend time getting it fitted? Was there a fitting room and someone to help you pick one out? I feel like having a more personal touch here like you get at high end clothes shops might be useful for me.

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 5 days ago

I've not yet, i might try though now you've said it! I wear various cute hats and I guess I have a sortof alt / punk vibe anyway so very short hair can sortof fit.

I really feel you though sister. Male pattern baldness is really brutal for us. It was actually a big part of how I realised I was trans because the dysphoria became unbearable as it started to happen. I appreciate you bringing this question up.

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Appreciate this, thank you

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 6 days ago (2 children)

I'm still in the cheap wig stage and still very early in transition. I assume I will get more and more frustrated with the quality (right now still just happy to have hair, oh to have been on E 10 years ago). I'm also interested in what the pricey ones might be like.

 

Hi, I'm Domi.

Long time lurker, first time poster. I just wanted to say that you have all helped me a great deal.

It's been long and slow journey unpacking the huge pile of internalised phobias that were pumped into my brain as an assumed male growing up in the 90s and 2000s. I have spent a long time in this very self-loathing "everyone is valid except me" way of thinking.

I've been reading your stories for a long time, the beautiful trans joy and difficult and terrible things too. You being here, being yourselves in all your glory, it has been a way for me to feel community and connection even before I could admit to myself who I really was.

So thank you all, thank you for sharing your joy, thank you sharing your hard times, thank you so much for being who you are. You've done more to help me than you can know.

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