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I can't speak to women's experiences, but as a man, it was pretty clear that these apps were dogshit designed to steal information while keeping you engaged with bots so they can further steal from you, including financially. Much like Facebook, I was an early rejector of dating apps, and I've been proven correct on both fronts. From what I can tell, the tech has only gotten better at taking advantage of lonely/stupid men. While dating isn't really a concern for me anymore, when I was actively dating, it was never difficult to meet women. It just requires a willingness to be open and accept rejection. Also, be willing to cut off interaction for relationships that aren't healthy. It's better to be alone than in a shitty relationship.
I know of several couples that have got married and met on bumble. Surely the exception to the rule, agree that Tinder is a complete spyware app.
Bubble wasn't around when I last engaged with dating apps, though I wouldn't give any app the benefit of the doubt, including in any conceivable future. While there are exceptions to the rule, as you mentioned, I'd say most people will be better off without dating apps, with or without a partner.