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Sure, but this small window of context also still indicates that "he":
Which sounds pretty toxic imho. Given that, if she wants to respond to toxicity with trolling, it certainly is pretty funny. Which seems to be the main point of the post, and the added nuance doesn't really undermine that.
I don't see it that way at all. He can trust her while not trusting the people she associates with.
I've had this issue with multiple girlfriends (who all ended up with one of the guys I warned them about). It's easy to tell when a guy is only being friendly to try to fuck a girl. Pointing that out isn't controlling in my eyes it's trying to be protective.
I'll grant you he shouldn't have said "stop hanging out with them" but the main point is there if you don't have the knee jerk reaction to the phrasing.
But, if you trust her, there shouldn't be a problem, right?
Or is it that you (in this hypothetical situation) don't truly trust her, otherwise you'd trust her around people you don't trust.
And that's okay, just don't pretend it's actually trust.
I don't trust other men to respect boundaries. If another man is only friends with my girlfriend because he wants to fuck her then he's already the type of man I wouldn't trust not to make unwanted moves.
She might not reciprocate but that's not what I'm worried about in this scenario.
It's fine, maybe even healthy, to be wary of other men. It's also important to respect your partner's autonomy, and to trust that with that autonomy, they will act in a manner that is healthy for the relationship (and for that trust to be reciprocated). It's great that you are willing to protect your partner, but it's important that you let your partner inform you when that protection is needed, instead of assuming based on your one-sided view of the person your partner is interacting with. Taking action based on that one-sided view, instead of having a discussion with your partner first, can make you come off as possessive.