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I don't like to be required to 1)guess correctly that they're lying to me and 2)indulge them in the lie. Especially since it'd also be considered rude of me to get 1) wrong.
Absolutely, just as they don't like to be required to be impolite just so you understand. This is why communication is sometimes complicated. I wouldn't call it a lie, but a truth transmitted differently than what you're used to.
I guess I just don't understand why being untruthful is considered more rude than being honest. I find being untruthful much more rude. Being untruthful and expecting me to guess that that's what's happening is what's making the exchange complicated, it could be quite simple if they told the truth.
Agreed. If you’re interested in better understanding the face-saving mores of global “honor cultures,” it’s a fairly interesting and relatively deep topic of study: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Face_(sociological_concept)