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Straight and I feel this.
If I may be so bold, I would suggest that this is about becoming your own person in growing up, and that we all have to learn what is us versus what we were taught. What we were taught that we believe to be true, and what we were taught that we now know is bullshit.
I will grant you that the LGBTQ+ community have additional layers to pick through, though.
While I believe that everyone experiences changing themselves to better fit a societal expectation to some level, I think posts like this are trying to highlight the fact that queer people change their entire being to be able to fit in to a world that expects them to be completely different to who they truly are. This post could be about any sort of minority trauma, not just queer people, but I would guess that the author is queer and writing from experience. I could easily see this being written by a neurodivergent person about their experience with growing up too.
I could see it being written about a lot of straight men. The world is full of deeply insecure emotionally stunted man-children, bullied at school for being supposedly 'feminine' or 'gay', who now overcompensate by riding around in huge trucks, being right-wing douche canoes, and pretending to be 'alpha'. It's no coincidence that plenty of those types end up killing themselves too, despite supposedly being in a position of privilege.
Society is patriarchal and heteronormative. This hurts almost everyone to a certain degree.
Not that I'm discounting the very real predjudice the LGBTQ+ community faces. It has cost me a job or two. Fortunately I'm bi and look stereotypically masculine, so I'm able to fly under the radar most of the time. And coming to terms with my sexuality has really opened my world and broadened my horizons, which has helped me immensely.