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So, I’m guessing there’s a bit of trouble extrapolating the point here.
At no point did anyone talk about calling a cis male a woman. That wasn’t the point being made.
What I did, was I used myself to illustrate being called something I’m not, and then gauging whether or not I still can say I support said thing even if don’t want to be called said thing.
I suppose I could have used animals as an example instead? I am all-in on supporting animal rights, minded domain, and stand firmly against animal abuse, though I’d prefer not to have people refer to me as a chihuahua.
Or what about nature conservation? I fully sport the protection of nature and wildlife habitats, however I’d prefer not to be referred to as a sycamore tree.
The point is, one can very much support something while preferring people not assume that they are that thing. It’s not about whether or not it offends them, It’s about them feeling that they should be respected for who and what they are.
Isn’t that what it’s all about anyway??
Then you kinda missed the point. The point isn't to call a straight person gay, and laugh at them if they react in any way negatively whatsoever. The point of the post is that despite calling themselves allies, many straight men would react to this as though it were an inherently bad thing if they were gay, rather than just an inaccurate assessment.
If you don't think being a woman is bad, and you present in a way where confusion is reasonably possible, surely you wouldn't get upset at someone (seemingly) accidentally misgendering you. You would simply point out that it's inaccurate. You might feel a bit bummed out that you weren't presenting as masculine as you wanted, but unless you're a major dick, you won't get upset at (at least outwardly) someone with no malicious intent accidentally misgendering you.
If you get immediately upset at someone accidentally, falsely clocking you as gay, that is an enormously strong indicator that you perceive an allegation of gayness as personal insult, rather than merely an inaccuracy.
I still think this it's a dick move, mostly because you never know if someone you think is straight might actually be in the closet, or struggling with their sexuality, but it's nowhere near as bad as you make out, because ultimately someone who is actually steaight, and comfortable with their sexuality, would only get upset at a person for being accidentally called gay if they view gayness as inherently bad.
LAMO…. I give up. I was warned that rationality and nuance are things not often considered by people on lemmy.
Ironic, considering you're the one who is painting this entire issue as entirely black and white ("It's bad because I think it's bad"), whilst I'm the one actually bringing in nuanced arguments.
You'll also note (or maybe not, if you didn't bother actually reading my comment) that I LITERALLY agree that this it's a dick move to actually do this, and just argue that you're making it out as worse than it is, and for the wrong reasons. That's called nuance, my dude. You're welcome to disagre with my arguments, and provide a counter. Or you can just do the intellectual equivalent of flipping over the chess board, because you think your opponent is playing bad.
All right then… you go and enjoy being outraged by everything. Be sure to keep rewriting everyone’s point for them so they are too busy defending themselves against shit they never said instead of the pout they actually made.
Going to block you now. I prefer to not have my time wasted by people who won’t even try to underywhat someone is saying without Turing it into a pointless debate.
You're literally the one who is blatantly refusing to even for a second entertain the possibility that I have a point. Every accusation a confession.