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So, I’m guessing there’s a bit of trouble extrapolating the point here.
At no point did anyone talk about calling a cis male a woman. That wasn’t the point being made.
What I did, was I used myself to illustrate being called something I’m not, and then gauging whether or not I still can say I support said thing even if don’t want to be called said thing.
I suppose I could have used animals as an example instead? I am all-in on supporting animal rights, minded domain, and stand firmly against animal abuse, though I’d prefer not to have people refer to me as a chihuahua.
Or what about nature conservation? I fully sport the protection of nature and wildlife habitats, however I’d prefer not to be referred to as a sycamore tree.
The point is, one can very much support something while preferring people not assume that they are that thing. It’s not about whether or not it offends them, It’s about them feeling that they should be respected for who and what they are.
Isn’t that what it’s all about anyway??
While I get what you're saying, you would still be the person who is choosing to take offense in this situation, and getting yourself worked up. This would be more like if someone said you look like you're from Boston, weird because there's not a true 'look', but not a big deal at all.
Equating it to someone calling you a dog is the energy you're putting on it yourself. It's generally considered dehumanizing to equate gay people to dogs, something to consider
Jfc…. There’s no point debating this.
Complains about people not trying to understand your point. Immediately refuses to engage in any meaningful way with a comment literally starting with the words "I get what you're saying".
My dude, take a look in the mirror.
You are the one who needs to step back and actually think about the rhetoric you are spewing before just pushing it out there. From your own standards that you defined in your conversation here, you are saying that when a Trans person gets misgendered, THEY are CHOOSING to get worked up if they get upset and correct someone. Your own rhetoric is transphpbic. People have a RIGHT to express and maintain their own identity. You need to understand that.
I'd love for you to explain to me where that follows from the standards I've laid out.
I explicitly said that a straight person who is secure and comfortable in their sexuality will not mind. Being secure and comfortable in your gender identity ain't exactly something trans people are known for, so only someone who knows fuck all about trans people could possibly think this is remotely comparable.
Straight people, with very few, if any, exceptions, didn't grow up being told they're gay. Being forced by society to express themselves as gay, even though it made them feel awful. They didn't spend potentially decades feeling unwelcome in their own skin. They don't spend hours upon hours worrying that society won't accept than as "a real straight". They don't spend days worrying about the hate crime, discrimination and legal persecution they are susceptible to if they don't look straight enough. Triggering that level of trauma isn't the same as making someone slightly uncomfortable because they found out they unknowingly didn't express their outward sexuality as strongly as they felt. It isn't remotely, on any level, comparable, and that is an objective truth.
I am also notably not defending calling straight people gay. I'm just pointing out that deliberately misgendering a trans person is on a completely different plane of shitty behaviours. Not every shitty behaviour is automatically equally shitty.