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[–] over_clox@lemmy.world 2 points 7 hours ago (4 children)

Umm, okay. I've never been married before, but apparently I'm registered as the person to inherit my roommate's vehicle should he pass or fall under bad health, amongst other things usually associated with family/marriage.

But I'm not married. But if needed, I could take power of attorney on his behalf. But his niece down the road would probably end up handling all that anyways..

I dunno, hope he lives a good long life, he just hit 66 years old, been living together for like 7 years now.

[–] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 4 points 6 hours ago (3 children)

First, I'll disclose I'm not a legal expert, but I just went through most of this recently when getting married and while setting up my revocable trust, so lots of this is still top-of-mind.

Umm, okay. I’ve never been married before, but apparently I’m registered as the person to inherit my roommate’s vehicle should he pass or fall under bad health,

Unless you're registered on the title to the vehicle with your roommate, your roommate's estate will have to go through the probate process before along with cooperation from your roommate's executor you'd receive the car, or possible not at all if the estate had debts. If you were married to your roommate you'd have no problem being put on the title and the car instantly is yours on their passing. No probate. All of this assumes a paid-off car. A car with loan still on it is more complicated.

amongst other things usually associated with family/marriage.

You can be legally compelled to testify against your roommate in legal proceedings. A spouse cannot be.

But I’m not married. But if needed, I could take power of attorney on his behalf. But his niece down the road would probably end up handling all that anyways…

As I understand it, your roommate would need to sign over Power of Attorney prior the need. If they were already incapacitate you'd have no ability to do the things needed for them that would require Power of Attorney. As an example, you would not be able to access their bank accounts to pay their bills while they were incapacitated. With a spouse you'd already have shared expenses and be able to service anything while your mate is not capable.

I dunno, hope he lives a good long life, he just hit 66 years old, been living together for like 7 years now.

I hope so too, but life moves quickly and, many times, without notice of what is to come.

[–] over_clox@lemmy.world 1 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago) (2 children)

He has arranged official papers tacked on his wall with all the information necessary for me and his family to proceed should something happen to him.

I'm in tight contact with his family, so really if something happens to him, they'll come along and sort most of it out. But I know they'll respect me, I can't and don't even want everything anyways. But I'm pretty sure they'll agree the vehicle should rightfully go to me, as I do most of the work on it.

But I'm here to keep him living as long as possible, I don't want a damn thing except happiness and life for myself, my mother right down the road, my roommate, and basically everyone around me...

[–] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 1 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

He has arranged official papers tacked on his wall with all the information necessary for me and his family to proceed should something happen to him.

For it to be a legal Power of Attorney the agent usually needs to be named. Does the Power of Attorney he has prepared have your name specifically? Additionally many states require his signature to be performed in the presence of a Notary. You'd need to check the requirements in your state. Alternatively, you mentioned the niece. Does he have a Power of Attorney document naming her as his agent? I'm not bringing this stuff up as any kind of "scoring points", I just want to help him and you that the preparations he's made are sufficient to fulfill his wishes should the situation become necessary.

I’m in tight contact with his family, so really if something happens to him, they’ll come along and sort most of it out. But I know they’ll respect me, I can’t and don’t even want everything anyways. But I’m pretty sure they’ll agree the vehicle should rightfully go to me, as I do most of the work on it.

I really hope you don't have a negative experience, but a shockingly common thing to happen is that the wishes of the dead are promptly ignored on their passing as those (usually family) are set to gain from the passing.

But I’m here to keep him living as long as possible, I don’t want a damn thing except happiness and life for myself, my mother right down the road, my roommate, and basically everyone around me…

I hear ya. We all want that, or something similar. We hope for the best, but we need to plan for the worst. This is where good and proper legal preparation during the good times can be an incredible benefit during the bad times.

[–] over_clox@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago

I dare not ask him exactly how his paperwork is fully arranged, but I know exactly where the paperwork is, should anything happen.

He's already had a couple episodes of hypothermia where his body temperature got as low as 91⁰F..

He's basically perfectly okay these days, as long as he doesn't drink beer anymore. Still, he's got all his contact info, insurance info, and other relevant documents tacked up on the wall right behind his bedroom door.

His niece is also a good friend of mine, and she helps everyone within her means, she's something of a financial advisor..

My roomie ain't even got much worth stealing, but he's got plenty enough family around (way more than just the niece), that nobody's gonna fuck with his stuff..