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"So to preface this is posted in literature.cafe’s meta community but this question is primarily aimed at generally anyone in the lemmyverse who is NOT a cisgender man no matter what instance they may be in. The purpose of this thread is to present a stage for conversation for those willing to contribute, and although cisgender men are not excluded I kindly ask you to be mindful of the fact what this thread is meant for and try to avoid talking over others here. If you are a cisgender man interested in learning and seeing how lemmy can improve like I am: welcome. For those who are here to cause issues or talk over others though, you will be promptly removed.

I do not know the demographic data of lemmy, but I would wager a large portion are male. And over the past few weeks I have witnessed women on numerous occasion discuss their discomfort on here. Reddit very much had a very “bro-y” feeling culture for many, that felt like a barrier to entry to many women. With lemmy, there’s a potential to break this. But the answer really is how? Lemmy has begun to develop into its own culture already independent of Reddit quite rapidly, and it’s been awesome to see but I am wondering if there’s a way we can push it a step further and implement ways to make the platform more welcoming to women than Reddit previously did.

Thoughts?"

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[–] BolsheWitch@hexbear.net 43 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (21 children)

step 1: ban any man that hates PSL

step 2: add a “Taylor Swift” comm, use it as a honeypot to ban any guy that complains about Taylor Swift. Easy proxy for misogynistic brainworms.

step 3: just keep finding shit like that and purging dude bruhs who can’t mind their manners and feel forced to shit on things they view as feminine instead of just like… fucking off and finding another post like a normal person lol

Edit: upvote my request for c/TaylorSwift https://hexbear.net/post/625706

[–] BolsheWitch@hexbear.net 23 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I’m not even entirely joking. Having a Taylor Swift comm would be so fucking funny istg

[–] BolsheWitch@hexbear.net 19 points 2 years ago (1 children)

@kristina@hexbear.net are you a swiftie and/or are you willing to pretend to be

[–] kristina@hexbear.net 20 points 2 years ago (1 children)

i barely know who taylor swift is but yes, i am more than willing to pull out a swiffer wet jet supreme© and stan it

[–] BolsheWitch@hexbear.net 21 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

she is the voice of a generation. Taylor Swift is more than a musician. She is an idea, a world-historical heroine, light itself.

When people told me they hated Taylor Swift or (far worse) that they were "not swifties," I wish I had said in no uncertain terms: "I love Taylor Swift. I am in awe of her. I am set free by her. She will be the finest worldwide superstar our galaxy has ever seen."

I wish, in those exchanges, I had not asked gentle, tolerant questions about a hater's ridiculous allergy to her, or Taytay’s fictional misdeeds and imagined character flaws. More deeply still, I wish I had not reasoned with anyone, patiently countered their ludicrous emotionalism and psychologically disturbed theories.

I wish I had said, flatly, "I love her. I am gay as fuck for Taylor Swift. I am a big fat dyke for Gaylor.” As if I had been asked about my girlfriend or Fletcher. No defensiveness or polemics; not dignifying the crazy allegations with so much as a Gawker or PinkNews link.

[–] BolsheWitch@hexbear.net 18 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

Testing: can i say dyke yet or is that word still banned here.

Edit: YES.

[–] infuziSporg@hexbear.net 11 points 2 years ago (1 children)

That was always such a weird slur. There's an anti-gay slur that implies that a class of people is meant for burning, and then there's this, a big earthwork. Like what, is Peter the little hero of Holland going to put his finger in the lady to stop the flooding? Yeah real offensive.

[–] Outdoor_Catgirl@hexbear.net 12 points 2 years ago (2 children)

The earthen dam is spelled dike

[–] axont@hexbear.net 6 points 2 years ago

Yeah but the spelling with a y may or may not come from the word for ditch/dam. The etymology isn't known for certain.

[–] WoofWoof91@hexbear.net 6 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

in uk at least it's spelt with a y

[–] UnicodeHamSic@hexbear.net 18 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Taylor Swift said that women hold up half the sky.

[–] BolsheWitch@hexbear.net 14 points 2 years ago (1 children)
[–] UnicodeHamSic@hexbear.net 10 points 2 years ago (1 children)
[–] BolsheWitch@hexbear.net 11 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

lmfao i need this & might make it tomorrow

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