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I dunno, ask my ex, the most outspoken feminist I ever met. Her exact response to me telling her that I'd been assaulted was "oh boo hoo." Shortly thereafter, she tried to spermjack me.
So then you recognize that my fear is unfounded, whether I can convince myself of that fact or not? Perhaps even pathologically so?
Also, ask any man you're close to (if you're able to get over the crushing fear of being near someone with a penis) how many times he's been assaulted. Then ask him why he's never reported it. If he had, he was either going to get called a pussy (mostly by women, in my experience) or he'd get laughed out of whatever police station he reported it at. Oh, or because he's afraid she'll flip the script and claim that he raped her, which people will actually listen to. Whoops, there goes several years of his life, all for the low, low price of getting sexually assaulted.
If you want to talk about unspoken realities, the male sexual assault rates are a particularly grim one.
God, the irony here is too much, I don't like to bring this up but I just can't contain myself.
Dude. I have a penis. I am a trans woman. Dig around in my post history if you want proof. But I have lived about 2 decades of my life presenting as a man, and then the last decade as a woman. I have been sexually assaulted multiple times in my life before and after transition.
So I literally know EXACTLY what you are talking about. But what I'm trying to tell you, is that the amount of sexual harassment I have faced as a woman is exponentially more than the harassment I faced while looking like a boy/man. It's not even close. When I presented "male", I would often walk outside at night. Hell I used to work outside at anight job. That's simply not something I can do as a girl, you know why? Because I have been literally chased multiple times by men "who just want to talk", I'm lucky I was able to reach gated doors. I've had to pull out pepper spray men who have followed me to my car when I wouldn't talk to them, I've had men follow me in to a movie theater, sit down next to me, and place their hand on my knee while smirking. These things that literally never happened before transition. The average man, is WILDLY more prone to harassing than the average woman.
I know better than most what each gender faces in terms of harassment. So if you wanna talk about our personal experience, let me tell you what the overwhelmingly common factor is? That men are straight out more violent, yes a few overly handsy women made me leave some parties when they wouldn't take no for an answer, but that's not really a compassion to the violence that men display when they have chased me in the last few years.
Calling women, trans and cis alike, misandrist for feeling unsafe around men, is absolute BS.
I bet you have colorfully dyed hair.
Attack the point, not the person.