Are you looking for help or are you just venting?
this post was submitted on 31 Jul 2023
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Wish more people would ask this question. My wife and I practice this at home (and with our teams at work) and it's a game changer.
Try to keep this in mind:
You have: Your friends, family, job, school, social activities, phone, computer, TV, car, bike...
Your dog has: You!
Not trying to shame anyone here who is burnt out with a pet. I get frustrated with my dog too, but I try to remind myself that she's a part of my world, while I'm her WHOLE world.
It's been a few days for the person who obviously is having a bit of a hard time. Try encouraging the human to figure out what's happening instead of trying to guilt trip them out of their funk.
What would we do with our dogs when we have two days of really bad pouring rain? Or a blizzard? Or 110° weather where it's not safe to exercise a dog a lot? That's the type of advice this person needs.
When I'm feeling very through with the world, I find it very hard to level with my dogs excitement. Little things she does will piss me off disproportionately and I tell myself she's just a dog and doesn't know better. It's not her, it's me. Take good care of yourself so you can take good care of your dog!
I've got three dogs and get it. One dog is very old and needs special attention. Another is very young needing different attention.
When there is something wrong in my head their normal stuff annoys me. I try to remember they are being normal and it is I that is different.
hey, I honestly get this. there were points when my guy was a pup and pushing the boundaries it was miserable. they are hours and hours a day of work and they can be kind of jerks, esp when they're young. he's settled down so much and I'm proud of him, it was worth all the work. don't be down on yourself for feeling the burn out though. I started paying a dog walker to take him out for the day once a week and it helped even having one extra day where I didn't have to worry so much.
edit: also when I got covid he went a week without a walk and didn't even complain. they can go a day if you're burnt out. it might be nice to watch a movie with her, just play with a ball inside or something.
You need a vacation or time off... I feel bad for your dog. You're her whole world, and the only thing that matters to her.
Don't push her away.
What's there to feel bad about? She's fine.