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The original was posted on /r/lifeprotips by /u/Nefiji on 2025-05-26 16:50:16+00:00.
Original Title: LPT: You making mistakes was, is and always will be a never-changing constant throughout your life. How you react to or treat yourself for making mistakes, on the other hand, is a freely fillable variable.
Most people automatically and subconsciously fill this variable in their childhood and youth, based on how their parents and close ones reacted to or treated them, but also themselves, when mistakes did happen. If you were lucky, this might have been radical acceptance, forgiveness, constructive criticism as well as optimism that the frecuency of this particular mistake can be reduced in the future. If you were unlucky, then it might have've been getting shamed, being treated like a failure, anger and self-loathing.
If you can recognize the latter behaviour in yourself when making mistakes, then try to realize that it's nothing more than what has been taught to a former version of yourself, a version which was still learning from other people on how to act and view the world. You have the power to refill this variable with any behaviour or assesment you want, if you put the work in. Just remind yourself everytime you make a mistake that:
A) Mistakes will always be a part of life, so that's nothing that you can ever change
B) Your way of responding to mistakes is not set in stone, and actually is a part of life that you specifically have control over