AmITheAsshole

I'm a 22m college student right now, and my little brother is in grade 9. For the past 5 days, our parents have been overseas, so my bro and I are staying at home, and just because I'm studying for the MCAT and really stressing out, I'm being helped in looking after my brother by our long time female family friend named Rina, who turned 44 this summer. I myself have known Rina since I was 5 years old, and I actually see her sexually. So does my little brother. Despite this, she seems to be totally unaware of our feelings towards her, and she openly tells us to consider her our "older sister". We like it because she's a very kind person, and she's really, really nice to both of us and to our family. She also always really casual with exposing her skin, and she doesn't seem to know the effect it has on my little brother lol.

Two nights ago, Rina invited her boyfriend over to our house, with our approval and my parents did give her permission to do this if she felt like it. I'm not sure if she was allowed to do this, but she helped herself to our alcohol, and got quite drunk while her boyfriend was the designated sober person. Whenever Rina gets drunk, she just gets utterly adorable, and I think it really pushed my brother to the edge. Because last night, in an effort to see her all cute and letting her guard down again, he spiked her drink with alcohol. She saw right through it, and it really freaked her out, even though it didn't do much harm to her (she stopped drinking immediately). She got my brother to fess up, and she didn't take it very well at all.

Today, I was at home, studying, when Rina walked in. I could tell she was trying to put up a brave face, and she told me that she was waiting for my brother to come home so that she could chat with him. When he did come home, however, she kinda froze up. She tried acting normal, and tried making us dinner, but she started freaking out and puked a lot. Her cooking is always amazing, and this was the only time my brother and I weren't comfortable with eating it....I just now walked in on my brother lying in his bed, crying, and I did my best to comfort him, and patted him on the head and managed to get him to calm down....

Am I doing this right? I have more than a week left until my parents come home.

AITA, on April 29th, I noticed a FB post from my BFF, it's theme was about "leaving a party early".

My BFF notoriously falls asleep early and drifts away from any gatherings at his house.

In the comments section, I posted a photo from about '92-'93, of him sleeping on a couch. I'm in the photo behind the couch. Two other friends are at each end of the couch. Either sitting on the armrest or leaning on it. No booze, drugs or anyone flipping the bird. IMO: very innocent photo.

A couple of days after my photo comment, he sent at least 3 text in rapid fire mode. Essentially "screaming" at me to delete that photo.

It took a brief moment to get onto FB and delete that photo. But, those texts all came in faster than I could take care of the situation.

Keep in mind, it's on HIS FB page, he had full control to delete the photo himself. Then, he could've "yelled" at me via text/phone call.

IMO: he owes me an apology for the way he "screamed" at me via text. We haven't said more than "Hey." at any group gatherings since the episode.

AITA?

My 21M friend 24F My 4-year-old son is sick and is dying, and I just don't care now. In fairness, it's my friend's (22M) sibling, but I know her too, and I guess you could say we are "friends", but I seriously just don't care about her kid. Their parents won't help them financially with the kids' treatments, she told me, and while yes, I could help them, I choose not to because, like I said, I don't care for them. I don't hate them, but I'm just apathetic towards them.

AITAH

I live at an international dormitory with other international students, here in Japan. I met a guy two years ago and we were good friends ever since, he is japanese and I am Indian. I live in an international students dormitory so I introduced all of my friends to him and we all became good friends. It was usually only me who invited him for any plans even if he was connected to others through social media. He became my boyfriend after some time.

Now one of another Indian guy in my friend group is extremely misogynistic and is only nice to women he wants to sleep with. Needless to say he was not nice to me, would expect me to cater to the Japanese girls he's bringing to the dormitory and then act entitled. I told him I am not going to put up with this behavior, so he started to cut me off from plans ( he used to make so many plans) because he doesn't take his PhD seriously. When I noticed that he started to cut me off from plans, I just simply stopped talking to him.

This guy had a habit of befriending people who have cars, even pretended to be in love with a girl who has a car just so he could travel around. (This is important information for the story) My Japanese ex boyfriend also had a car but it was usually us going around alone.

Eventually we broke up because of a lot of communication gap but decided to stay friends. He made a new girlfriend one month ago and I decided to minimize my conversation with him although I was still very much in love with him.

Now this Indian guy, suddenly started becoming close to my Japanese ex boyfriend because he has a car and the girl he pretended to be in a relationship with because of her car, dumped him. He started inviting him to the dormitory. And my Japanese ex boyfriend started bringing his new girlfriend with him. I wouldn't have had any problem with it but my relationship with my Japanese ex boyfriend became very bad when I found out that he voted for a political party that is same as MAGA and wants to take away foreigners rights. He actually told me he wants to remove Chinese people from Japan but when he comes to my dormitory, he pretends to be their best buddy.

I requested my Indian friend multiple times not to invite him, so he kept telling me that it's a free world and we can do whatever we want (even though he got uncomfortable when I mentioned I would invite his ex girlfriend with a new boyfriend next). I gave him a warning and when he didn't listen, I told his ex the entire story of him cheating on her and then playing victim and calling her crazy when she opened up to their other mutual friends.

I also texted my ex boyfriend's new girlfriend and asked her to stop coming over to my place because I am moving out in two months. And then they can come whenever they want. Whenever they both come here, I feel uncomfortable and stop spending time with the same friends I introduced them to. I even told her that if they both Don't go to her ex-boyfriends place why do.they come to mine especially when I have already requested them multiple times to stop doing it.

Also if he hates foreigners so much and take away their rights, why should he hangout with us? I have not told my friends what he said about the topic to me.

So AITAH in this situation?

I (F26) work with a lot of foreign coworkers at a landfill. We pick recycling off a conveyor belt and are expected to do a certian amount a minute, or "pick speed". Theirs are regularly low. Additionally, they had a habit of flushing paper towel and making a mess. This plugged the toilet, and the women's restroom has been locked. We need special permission to use it like gradeschool. That all being said, I've had issues with them for more petty reasons. They would demand I sweep some certian part of the plant at the end of the day instead of whetever I was, they have no actual authority. They rush me in the bathroom, knocking on the doors. They generally are difficult. I am autistic, so I don't deal with this well, and tend to yell. Every time, they make a point to all laugh in unison.

My boss's boss was talking about meetings before work today. The subject of pick speeds came up, as one of the foremen has to bring it up during the meeting again. I complained as the boss was out the door that they really should be talking to these foreign workers, who among the above, have low pick speeds, make excuses not to switch stations as we normally would, and so on. The boss's boss gets mad at me, tells me "Everyone deserves a chance to work here" and all but accuses me of racism. It's worth noting, my pick speeds are usually well above average. AITAH?

I recently got banned from a dating subreddit and discord for people over 30 and all the admins will say is that I made some people uncomfortable. I've been trying to figure out what I did that could have upset people and the one 2 things I can think of was one incident when somebody mentioned I should try dating another male member of the discord server since we had so much in comment and I jokingly explained that I could never date another man because I don't like the sight of my own genitals so I doubt I would want to see or touch another man's. That seemed to spark some controversy with some members because I brought up genitalia. I get that I probably could have said it in a classier way, but in a server for people over 30 looking to date, I would assume this wouldn't exactly be taboo or warrant a ban.

Sorry for the catchy title! Let me explain.

I, 21F, was in an almost 6 month relationship with a girl, also my age. The first 3 months everything was smooth sailing, we live together in the same dorm building and things where chill. However, we had to go long distance due to summer vacation. Then, things started to get weird: she wouldn't reply to my messages for 6-8 hours (mind you, to conversation starters such as "good morning, how u doing, have you got any plans for the day" etc.) and wouldn't want to play games or watch movies with our friends online like before. After a month of this I raised this issue to her through FaceTime. She seemed to acknowledge it and told me she'll try to get better. That, I think, made things much worse. Conversations seemed so forced, and when we talked through the phone she answered with a dry, cut-to-the-chase tone, never asking me further than the bare minimum of "how are u". I somehow put up with this for a month, thinking that maybe exams had been rough and she was tired. Then, after I asked her randomly one day to play a game of Risk online (which, she refused), she blew up and started telling me that I always thought the worst of her, that I made her feel insecure about her degree and that I got exactly what I wanted from her (apparently, a talking schedule rather than a conversation). This caught me as a surprise. She'd never told me anything was going wrong and suddenly she had a loooong list of things I did that hurt her. I apologized, not knowing about what exactly, but none the less I valued her and our relationship more than being "right" on a small and out of the blue argument. Apparently this posture of trying to understand what happened and why she felt that way was actually "cold and manipulative" (exact phrasing, btw). I apologized, again, because I really wanted to make things right. She told me she needed to fix things in person, so she'd be no-contact until we meet again in her hometown for a trip we had planned with our group of friends. I agreed and so the next time we spoke was when I got off the train and into her car for the hour long ride to her hometown.

Long story short (because this could be another post) the trip was an utter failure, she wouldn't even look at me and wouldn't answer until I'd asked multiple times (she did not do this to my other friend, who was super confused and kinda astonished), among many other awful things (in which she started to also misstreat this other friend). Fast forward to me being back home processing whatever happened, I called her, asked why she treated us, and specially me, that way. I honestly wanted to understand how did she wanted to fix things when she would barely speak to me. She said she had already forgot, and that things were actually sorted out. I couldn't take anymore, so I cut things off because I saw she didn't want to fix things, but rather keep being mad. She told me she would call me before the new academic year to see how we we're feeling and how we wanted to manage the new situation. Rest to say, that call hasn't happened yet, and she avoids me like the plague (like, shamelessly getting up from the table if she sees me coming over to have lunch with our friends).

So, here is the AITA. She moved rooms to be right next to one of our friends (not the one from the trip tho). Whenever I stop by this friend's room she goes feral pounding on the wall, hitting doors, walking up and down the corridor like a beast in a cage. I tried confronting her about this and she angrily (over text, because she doesn't even dare look my way) said that I am no being considerate with her and that I am invading her space (with my voice) by being in the next room over, and that I'm basically stalking her and should stop hanging around there. I stood my ground and told her she didn't get to decide what happened on the room next door, but rather my friend since its her room. The thing is, not only does my friend live next door, but we also share the same group of friends (or used to, since this devacle has left me for dead, for the rest of the group has sided with her even tho no one asked how I'm dealing with the breakup), and we study at the same faculty. Am I really "messing" or "stalking" her? I don't want to she her just as much as she doesn't want to see me, but it's almost impossible not to at least run into each other in a corridor.

Sat behind me at the cinema was a mother and two teenage girls having a conversation amongst themselves (with mostly Mother talking) and kicking the back of the seats.

Mother goes for a pee. The kids aren't talking but at least one of them was still kicking the seats. I ask them "Please stop kicking the back of my chair" They do, all good.

Mother comes back, conversation resumes. I ask Mother "can you please shut up". She gives a half hearted fake apology.

Daughter then tells Mother I spoke to her.

"Did you speak to my child?"

"Yes I did, I asked her to stop kicking the back of my chair."

"But that's ridiculous, my chair is the one behind yours..."

"Well someone behind me was kicking the chairs, I felt it and asked them to stop."

"My god, are you that sensitive?"

"Apparently so."

"Oh well make sure you don't get too scared watching the scary movie."

Conversation between them didn't end I just couldn't be bothered arguing further.

Movie ends, I think "I'm going to get an earful off this woman" so leave as soon as the credits start to roll.

As I'm leaving I hear Mother come out and say "excuse me". I'm assuming she meant me, she was speaking to a girl behind the counter. I start to walk away. I then hear Mother say that a man abused her 14 year old daughter in there.

Counter-girl rightly had a horrified look on her face because of the liberal use of the word "abused". I walk over and said "that would be me" and explain what I said to Daughter. Counter-girl then calls over her manager.

I let Mother speak to Manager and then explain my side.

Manager says something like "this is just a cinema" clearly can't be bothered with this and I don't blame him.

Mother asks if there's CCTV in the screen, Manager says no. Then Mother walks away calling me a "bully" and a "horrible man". I leave also.

So, AMITA?

Hi All,

I have a savings account for purpose of which is to save up for "new teeth". My own teeth are all rammed full of fillings, the bottom row are not straight to say the least and two on the top row have irremovable stains and one needs a root canal. I hate my teeth so I would like a much more permanent solution to all my problems, I've also always had confidence issues about my smile. (I didn't look after my teeth well when I was young, but that's another story)

My aim is to save for all on four or all on six permanent dentures type thing. As a route to get decent looking teeth with no pain or infection problems. I have a savings account which I put in to every month to save for this and I think it will take another three or four years until I can afford them.

Last night, my girlfriend of about two years who is currently moving in asked how much I had saved in it. We are a little tight on money right now, I work full-time but she has been struggling to get more than 9 hours a week that she has to travel quite far for. I took her question as a bit of a threat quite frankly, that if she knew that I had a fair amount saved, then I might seem like a tight arse for not being more generous with money situations. She does know that I hate my teeth and that I want to save to get them fixed.

I said "none of your business" and I do now regret the tone that I used.

The next morning she was in tears saying things like she couldn't understand why I would keep a secret like that.

I have expressed to her that I regret seeming quite abrasive about what was possibly a fully innocent question on her part and explained that I thought personal savings were a private matter. I wouldn't ask her how much her savings were for example.

I now understand that some couples have full financial transparency with eachother. But I for some reason feel quite uncomfortable about that right now. I currently pay all the bills which is fine, I've been paying for everything myself for the last eight years or so and she does want to start contributing a bit which is great. I don't have any secret debts or anything like that to hide.

I know I could have handled the situation better but I'm wondering if I'm an arsehole for not telling her how much savings I have for a purpose of which I'm already considering as spent money?

edit: I am a man and the only man in this scenario

This happened some time ago. I was driving and stopped on a gas station. probably for coffee and had to go pee. I saw a long queue of around fifteen to twenty exclusively 30-something girls, definitely bit older than me. They probably were a sports team, since there was a hired couch bus waiting outside and they were mostly wearing sweats. There were separate stalls for men and women (one each), so I went for the men's room. It turned out locked, so I stood just outside it. One of the girls in the queue said that the back of the queue is "back there". I replied "sure, but I'm going to the men's room", understandably assuming they were queueing for the ladies room. To which she said "yeah but there's one queue for both". I am familiar with the concept of shared queues, but mostly from supermarkets or post office, where you would queue for several checkouts and just go to the first one that is free. Never encountered shared queues for gender-separated toilets, so I said "but the toilets are separate, I'm going to the men's room and you can queue for the ladies room" and simply went in without any more protest from them when the men's room emptied (and it was another girl in there).

Were I the asshole?

TL;DR: Some people who buy cigs from me expect me to remember their orders when I don't, and when they do it repeatedly I remember them because they're an asshole but I pretend that I don't. AITA?

I work at a gas station kiosk, and obviously I have a LOT of "regulars"... I remember a lot of them, but some people just walk up to my window and say something like "it's me again" and stare at me, as if I know who they are or what they want. A lot of them will do this repeatedly, and I end up remembering their order anyways because of how much of an asshole they are. That's when I pretend not to remember, even if it's the 100th time.

The newest one doesn't speak English, but this is the third time where this exact sequence played out:

He walks up to my window and says "one cigarette", to which I reply "which ones?" He says "lucky" so I grab regular Lucky Strikes, and he says "nonono" and points as if I can accurately judge what he's pointing to from that far away. After that doesn't work, he says "gold", so obviously I grab gold Lucky Strikes, and then he goes "no. no." again. He starts pointing again, and I still don't know what he's pointing at, so he makes a motion to indicate "the one to the right of that one." ...

He wants Lucky gold 100's, and at this point the only reason I remember his order is because he can't be fucked to remember how to say "hundreds". He'll say "lucky golds" after a lot of prying, so I don't think he should get a pass because of the language barrier.

This is the third time he's come up to my window and done this. I remember his cigarettes now, but next time I'm probably going to do the whole song and dance again. Me having your order before you get to the window is for people I remember, not for people who I remember because they can't be fucked to tell me what they want. AITA?

A year ago I was on a train from Italy to Germany, and I was assigned a seat in a cabin with 5 other people, kind of like the train from Harry Potter. I and almost everyone else in the cabin were using headphones to watch media, or reading a book. At one point, this middle aged lady pulls out her phone and starts watching something with the volume turned up, no headphones. I was going to ignore it if she only did it for a few minutes, but eventually like 10 minutes passed. So I unplugged my headphones, and started playing my movie at full volume and looked straight down at my phone. So now both of us were blasting some movie or tv show, while everyone else was getting annoyed. Eventually she turned off her sound, so I put my headphones back in. I realize I could have politely asked her, but as a foreign tourist who does not speak German or Italian, I assumed she wouldn't know English. AITAH?