AskTransgender

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/26381236

We have searched the internet and looked in a lot of places in it, however, we cannot find any non marketing or general information about them and since we would like to get bottom surgery, it would be very useful info to have.

So we were wondering what they are like, from hopefully people who have actually had the surgery or know somebody who has.

What are the various surgeries results, either penile inversion, ppt, or suporn etc?

Now obviously clitorises of them do not function exactly the same as endogynous ones since they do not extend all the way inside, but is there a hood that they expand out of, and what is the feeling like just in general and when touched?

Do any methods apart from ppt and the other one where they put anal tissue in have lube occur naturally? If so how does this occur?

Does the inside of any of the methods feel like endogynous vaginas over time or does it feel like flat skin or whatever no matter how much time there has been?

Does anybody have any pictures of what they look like? Not asking for anything personal or porny, just, we have never found any pictures online except for surgery pictures and thus are not sure what the various methods might look like after (without all the blood and stitches etc) and since we plan to get bottom surgery in the future knowing the various results visually would help a lot to help us decide which to go for and probably ease our anxiety.

Thanks so much for reading and hopefully answering these questions.

I don't have a lot of time to play game these days. I usually play games like Cities Skylines where it's easy to pause and exit. I basically have 1-4 hours to game a week - depending on the week. But ever since coming out trans, I've wondered if there was a game that casually was affirming. I realize I could play an RPG where you can design your character, but most of those games have you spend 2 hours designing and then you never really look at the character again. Baldur's Gate was a lot of fun, but it's a little too deep to play casually on the side. I strongly prefer a non-NSFW game. I realize a lot of NSFW games exist on Steam that do explore trans concepts (I assume), but I'm looking for a more positive, gentle, affirmation.

But I don't want to knock down too many ideas! What do you play?

Edit: I realize I made it sound like I've excluded all RPGs which I don't want to be the case since - inherently - anything affirming will have some RPG element to it. I just don't think first-person RPGs really work since I spend most of my time looking at my hands and I don't get to see my character.

I am asking this question based on a Reddit post that I saw. Why do black people (and non united-statesians) have less presence in the community? It feels super rare to see a person of colour getting mentioned, as I mostly see people of no colour. Is this some lack of vision that I have? Or is it really this way?

I'm a Software Engineer and I want to feel closer to the trans community. I live in a rural, remote, area and I don't have much of a chance of meeting fellow trans folks. I was wondering if there are publicly "trans" software. E.g., web applications that might help trans individuals, software that's just branded LGBTQ+, trans developers that need help in their repositories, etc. I don't have a ton of free time, but after my child goes to sleep (around 7pm-8pm) I find myself a bit idle. It might be nice to work on something passively a little here and there that supports the trans community in a small way.

Hi all,

I'm going on a backpacking trip in a month, and the only tucking underwear I've ever heard of is LeoLines and TomboyX, but I might as well ask if there's anything else. Bonus points if it uses a material like merino wool.

I use both brands for normal daily use, but Leolines is made from cotton and TomboyX is polyester, both of which are quite bad for temperature and odor control.

Tucking the old-school way sounds super confusing, so I'd rather not resort to that.

Has anyone here heard of it before, if so what are your opinions on it? I'm curious to hear what you have to say because I've mentioned it in the past and have received hostility from people either saying I'm crazy or that I'm "making fun of trans people".

I think some people deny that I really have it but I'm certain that is what I have since I literally have phantom limb sensations from a tail that I just don't have, including phantom pain which really sucks actually.

I just wanted to talk about this a bit. I'm not sure if this is the right community but the otherkin communities are very empty.

First, forgive me for a mostly political post, and if political discussions aren't welcome I have to problems deleting this.

I live in a highly conservative, sports loving area and I'm tired of listening to all the obviously insincere hand wringing and lies about safety and trans athletes in women's sports. Sometimes, changing the subject or leaving isn't an option, sadly. I was hoping you all could give me a little advice on how to respond as I'm tired of being silent.

Instinctively, I want to try and derail these arguments by suggesting that collegate and youth sports implement something like the "red stripe" rule from youth football. In pee wee football, if a player is growing faster than their peers then their helmet is marked with a red stripe and they're no longer allowed to carry the ball or play certain positions. This is both for handicap and safety reasons.

And just to be clear, I think the safety/unfair advantage argument is bullshit.

However, suggesting a red stripe rule could be a way to answer that argument without conceding their point and move a debate on to other topics. If a bigot still wants to press the sports issue, they're have to find other reasons to do so, and likely have to reveal their prejudice more openly.

But, I'm hesitant to use this argument, because at its core, such a rule still singles out trans athletes. So while it seems like a great debate tactic, I can still see how it could come across as offensive and transphobic, despite my intentions.

I don't like the idea of simply dismissing the issue as only affecting a tiny percentage of the population because that, to me, shouldn't matter.

So, what approach would be best? How would you all respond in this situation? How can I speak out on your behalf without speaking over you or for you?

What word would be the equivalent for sir or ma’am for a person not in the gender norm. I like greeting strangers with it while working retail & have always wondered what would be the right why to respond to someone who did not want to be called either sir or ma’am.

Do you think it's purely hateful or do you think it has some merit in certain contexts?

Personally I think it is a transphobic and dehumanizing term that objectifies and sexualizes trans women based on our anatomy, that should never be used in any context, but I'd love to hear what other people think.

If not then lets make one that starts with the same l!

I'm curious, how much of a danger is it in terms of health for someone to have lower than normal or no hormones at all.

I was wondering that because I was looking things up and I recently came across a thread on r/Asktransgender where the OP said if they didn't have hormones they would physically die in a year and several other people said similar things. Is this true? I'm not an expert in medicine but it seems like misinformation to me. I know Osteoporosis is a long term risk.

I also know that personally that I have not taken Testosterone (or Estrogen) in 15 years, and I'm mostly fine. These people said it was fatal to not take it for a year or two.

What are your thoughts on what they said? Does this sound plausible or does it sound like misinformation or exaggeration?

How was the move? What things did you need to adjust to? Are the people more accepting in your new home? Is there anything you miss?

I saw a thread on this topic on Reddit and I wanted to have the same interesting conversation here.

My doc just added it to me regumine, and I think a little after that I began smelling what I thought was a neighbor smoking. But its been mostly consisent no matter where I am ... Does anyone else experience something similar?

What I mean by that is that I see many posts by transfems about how they feel "eepy" and it feels to a point where they would hibernate if they could. Why so many memes about feeling sleepy are posted?

(Not using my typing quirk causes me dysphoria. I will provide a translation upon request only.) ~ The reason why I joined this instance was 8ecause I've 8een kicked off of Tum8lr for having the opinion that transness doesn't just apply to gender. I don't just pull this out of my ass - I actually experience nongender transness myself and I'm fully willing to 8e asked and/or grilled a8out it. I call myself transcharacter.

My Tum8lr termin8ion came entirely from claims of transpho8ia, 8ecause somehow in their minds identifying a8normally equals not supporting trans folkel/people? I don't quite understand how that works, 8ut I can say I'm not transpho8ic. I discovered that I feel this way through hearing other trans folkel/people discuss their experiences and came to my own conclusions a8out myself.

I guess I'm wondering if this is a safe space for my ilk or if I'm just going to get kicked out again?

I used to think I'm a guy, I like many masculine things like motor sports, fixing cars, playing shooters. Things that typically boys like and I have no desire to wear girly clothes or anything like that. But I've always when I was younger liked hanging out with girls more than I liked hanging out with other dudes. Maybe that's not weird but I liked their company more, like how other boys would hang out with the guys, I liked doing that but with girls.

Recently I met someone new, she's a lot like me in her interests and even her style, and I learned she's transfem and that has made me question whether I might be trans myself. I asked her to call me by she/her pronouns for a bit to see how it feels, and I got a rush of happiness when she referred to me with she/her pronouns. So now I'm not sure if I am a guy or not anymore. I don't have any discomfort towards my penis and I do think I'd miss it if it were gone, but lately I have been getting discomfort related to my chest, it feels flat and empty, and wrong. Like it should be bigger than it is. It doesn't seem normal for a guy to feel like that.

I really need help, is it normal for a guy to feel like this or does this mean I might be trans?

For those who don't know, it's a browser extension that marks a link to a group or person determined by how they act towards trans people.

I personally like this concept, but after reading the reviews on its Firefox add-ons page, it let me a bit worried. I found a Reddit post with one person commenting that someone marked their friends' blog as unwelcoming due to personal beef. On that same post, people were writing about how they used it just as a "suggestion".

So, returning to the question in the title, do you personally find this extension reliable/usable? Does it could have anything that should be worked better?

Seriously why? It feels like they think it's really funny, to make us try and present feminine to get what we need to feel better. Like it's a fetish to see what they think is a man dressed as a woman asking for estrogen. My doctor and therapist called me he/him even though I told him she/her multiple times, I practically yelled at him for his repeated misgendering, he didn't care.

I wish I knew why doctors and therapists put these ridiculous requirements on people. It's not like people are taking estrogen recreationally, like for real what is this for. Also how does me wearing a dress when I have face stubble and a masculine body prove I "feel like a woman" dumb fucks just want to see what they think is a man wearing a dress. It's obvious they believe I'm a man. I wasn't willing to degrade myself or sink to that level, I wouldn't have been able to live with myself. I got DIY, was the only option left that didn't involve degrading myself for those pigs and still getting denied anyway.

I'm sorry, I've had a bad day lately and I was recently reminded of this shit.

Some time ago, I was seeing a post online about "walking on eggshells" and how people were annoyed at this, and it made me think a little. I always try my best to be a respectful and decent person, but when the matter is trans people I do get a bit nervous (I'm an introvert, by the way. I'm already a bit nervous by default). How can I be sure that I'm not offending someone while also not looking so worried about it?

Like there are some people who think that we're not valid if we don't. Don't people know how expensive and painful it is. Plus some of us just like what we got ya know. I'm proud to be a trans girl who still has the bits. Why is this so hard for people to understand? Also some people seem to think it's much more common than it actually is.

I heard from a few forums that updating your email is not possible however is it possible to do it if it includes your deadname?

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/15865014

Hi, everyone! So, I'm moving toward going on estrogen in the next year. Before I do that, there are some steps I want to take to prepare. I'm using an at-home IPL machine now for hair removal, and I'd like to get some voice lessons under my belt as well. The main step I want to take next is sperm cryopreservation. My fiancee and I want kids, but I'm not certain it would be a good idea to have a kid during puberty. So, we want to freeze my sperm or our embryos, and I was wondering if ya'll have any resources you could share? I've looked into a few at-home sperm freezing kits, but it's such a big deal to place your fertility in the hands of a company like that and any advice would be much appreciated! <3

1. Birth Certificate:

   • Follow provincial vital statistics guidelines to update name and gender on the birth certificate.

2. Service Canada (SIN Card):

   • Visit local Service Canada to update the Social Insurance Number (SIN) card. Bring supporting documents, including the change of name certificate.

3. Canada Revenue Agency (CRA):

   • Submit a letter to CRA declaring name and gender change. Include the provincial change of name document and specify updated details for tax-related correspondence.

4. Employment:

   • Inform your employer’s HR department about name and gender marker change.
   • Update work-related paperwork, including employment records, insurance, life insurance, benefits, and disability eligibility.
   • Update nametag, time cards, employee records, directory, nameplate, and client/customer records.

5. Indian Status Card:

   • Update information on the secure status card.

6. Driver’s ID and Vehicle Registration:

   • Update driver’s license at the relevant provincial licensing office.
   • Update vehicle registration, car title.

7. Voter Registries:

   • Update voter registration with local, provincial/territory, and federal registries.

8. Banking:

   • Visit the bank to update records, including debit/credit cards, paper checks, and investing accounts.

9. Online Accounts:

   • Update information on various online platforms, including payment services, social networks, messaging services, professional listings, dating services, video sites, microblogging services, personal services, photo sharing, videoconferencing, email accounts, forums, porn platforms, commenting platforms, and apps.

10. Passport:

    • Apply for a new passport with updated details. Ensure the birth certificate reflects the new name and gender marker before applying.

11. Credit Reporting Agencies:

    • Notify both TransUnion and Equifax of the name change.

12. Insurance Policies:

    • Contact insurance providers to inform them of name and gender change.
    • This includes car insurance, home insurance, health insurance, and pet insurance. Provide necessary documentation.

13. Medical Records and Professionals:

    • Contact each medical professional's office to update records, including doctor’s office, dentist, vision care providers, pharmacy, and physical therapists.

14. Educational Institutions:

    • Inform attended educational institutions about name and gender change.
    • Check each institution’s administration office for specific procedures on updating transcripts and diplomas.

15. Post Office:

    • Visit the post office to update name and gender marker if you’ve changed your address or wish to reflect updated details on postal information.

16. Spousal Information:

    • Update spouse’s health contact information through the doctor and workplace.
    • If applicable, update spousal insurance and life insurance coverage through their workplace. Additionally, update joint bank accounts.

17. Legal Documents:

    • Update will, power of attorney, health directive, and living trust.

18. Financial Documents:

    • Update utilities information, electricity, water, phone, internet.
    • Also, update vehicle loans, school loans, and mortgage or lease.

19. Memberships:

    • For organizations, clubs, and services where you hold memberships, follow their specific procedures for updating records.

20. Loyalty Programs:

    • Update memberships in airlines, transit pass, restaurants/fast food, grocers, clothing stores, rideshare services, gas stations, hotels, animal adoption centres, automotive stores, home improvement stores, vehicle rental agencies, office supply stores, beauty stores, sports/outdoors stores, electronics stores, entertainment outlets, retailers, online retailers, subscriptions, clubs, meal delivery services, and charity subscriptions.

So I dealt with a nasty person a few days ago and one of the things this person did was calling people pick-mes while accusing them of being transphobic. The problem is I have no idea what this word or phrase means. I know it isn't good but I don't really understand how it relates to someone other than somehow being connected or associated with transphobia, and also likely being insulting.