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So you think it’s safe for those salads I got yesterday to leave it till tomorrow?
I have no appetite due to how stressed I am.
The due date is today for those salads.
They'll be fine. Take care of yourself.
Thanks.
Not sure how I can take care of myself at the moment though or what to do
I'm not sure what to do either but I do know you've got us to talk to. ♥
Thank you.
I guess it’s not an easy thing to talk about because there’s so much to it.
I wish I could turn off all my devices to take a break or give myself a break as horrible as it sounds but she’ll only tell me that I was ignoring her and that would be the end to our relationship.
I know she has my best interests when I talk to her about buying things and treating myself or renewing my road side assistance.
If I didn’t do those things I could have paid for her stuff and given her some hope.
This might sound harsh but if a relationship is not 50/50 then it's not a relationship. It's a co-dependency and that's not always healthy. You don't have to explain anything to me or to anybody else. You only need to ask yourself is this fair.
That’s fair enough. The situation doesn’t always allow it to be 50/50. I also do allow for some give and take because it isn’t always ideal to have it 50/50 when it can’t be that way.
What’s a co-dependency?
excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically one who requires support on account of an illness or addiction. "the tie that binds most of us together in this trap called co-dependency"
Oh ok thanks for the insight.
I'm not going to tell you how to co-ordinate your relationship because it's none of my business but I will say that relationships are like tag teams. You and your partner are on the same team but if it doesn't seem that way then you've got to ask yourself why.
Road side assist doesn’t sound like a luxury to me, it’s peace of mind. It’s a pretty cheap payment for a years worth of anxiety free driving. I’m not sure if I’m interpreting your comment wrong, but sounds like theres conflict about financials? Can you say to your partner you’d like a bit of quiet time for the rest of the day? And then raise it tomorrow and talk through your personal needs with them when it’s a bit calmer?
It’s complicated, there is some conflict with financial things and also some on the emotional side.
I don’t know, I think it’s depend on a bit of timing of when I ask for some time to myself. I have asked for it before but not in the middle of when she’s super emotional.
Sounds rough. I didn’t really mean ask them, I meant just let them know that’s what you need today. You have emotions too. Look after yourself.