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I wish I never drank so much from 17 to 25 (lemmy.world)
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This has impacted my life so negatively I don't even know where to start.

My friends and I started drinking at 17 and went out almost every weekend. Every year we had huge events like festivals (Germany has many) and well those were like 3 days being drunk in a row.

If i could turn back time I'd probably just tell myself to not do it and probably do it again anyways.

I'm getting invested in the gym and it's so good. I wonder how I'd look like today if I would have just been at the gym in my 20s.

Not only that. I wonder how my friend circle would look like cause currently I have no friends I'd consider "friends". Those were all drinking buddies. They still drink every weekend and more and more I realised they are just functioning alcoholics.

And since I don't drink anymore (2 years) I'm basically out.

So I'd say alcohol didn't only have a negative impact on my brain while I was still young (and after) it also hit my wallet, my time for better things (sports).... etc.

Man. Sucks. Sucks to be me.

Now I am happy I have a wife, a house and going in the right direction but it is soooo hard to find friends or atleast people if you aren't in school anymore and coworkers busy with own life.

If I could give anyone younger advice I'd just stay screw it and go to the gym and find a hobby like climbing, swimming, golfing, tennis or something and get people there.

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[–] SolacefromSilence@fedia.io 6 points 2 months ago (3 children)

If you want to make a change, you have to understand that you're going to fail a lot and that's ok. I don't really like to direct people to reddit, but mostly lurking there really helped me a few years ago before I even stopped drinking. https://www.reddit.com/r/stopdrinking/

I had a lot of times where I just wanted to not drink for one day for whatever reason. Then I stopped for a week here or there... then I tried it for a month to see if I could. Later, I made a promise to myself that I wouldn't drink on vacation so I'd be more present, and I kept going.

[–] cheesyxpickle@lemmy.ca 3 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I was hoping there would be a r/stopdrinking adjacent here… damn! I’ve been off Reddit for a week and definitely miss the love and support that the sub shows for each other.