I’ve always had a rocky relationship with my mom. It took years to just not care about her.
After she died, amongst her things I found evidence that multiple people had told her to get me tested for ADHD when I was a child. She opted not to, but after I graduated college 10 years after my peers, she told me not that she was proud of me, but that when my sister was a kid, people had told her to get her “tested” (she didn’t elaborate), but instead looked me square in the eyes and said “but I knew none of my babies were retarded!” It’s clear the story wasn’t about my sister.

I might actually hate her more now than I did when she was alive.

[–] isosphere@beehaw.org 2 points 4 weeks ago

My mom threw a massive tantrum at my school when they suggested I might benefit from medication. To be fair, it was a bad school and their specific recommendations were dubious, but something was certainly "up". My sibling learned they were diagnosed with ADHD in childhood about a year ago, and they're in their forties now.

Mental health stigma is really damaging.