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The difference is you don't need to identify someone's color or commit a social faux pas. Keep your color names, I just don't want to have to figure out if you are green or lime green and address you as such.
It's not necessarily a social faux pas to misgender someone, that's a myth made up by conservatives. It's a faux pas to intentionally misgender people.
Sorta like if you call someone Jeb and they correct you and say it's Jed. It only becomes an issue if you insist on calling them Jeb.
Fair, but I don't want every social interaction I have to be me messing up and apologizing to people that I have missgendered them. That sounds way more exhausting than current social interactions are for me, and I already find them exhausting.
You do that already, and it's even worse actually because everyone has an even more individual and sometimes difficult to remember thing about them you have to balance in a social situation. It's called a name. You have to be told it, you can easily forget it, and it's a social slight to call someone the wrong name. Right now gender expression feels uncomfortable to have to tell people because of the politisation and stigma pressed on it, but it doesn't have to be anything different than asking for someone's name to better address them.
Yeah but I'm okay with names. I'm not okay with genders. At a bare minimum to interact with people in society, you need to know a name, some kind of identifier. If I knew of a way around that I would suggest it. However, interacting with people in society does not require knowing their gender. At least now it doesn't require it as it's pretty clear that gender is a made-up category.