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[–] athairmor@lemmy.world 47 points 3 days ago (33 children)

Good. I’ve seen stuff on that sub back when I used that site. It’s takes “I don’t want to have kids and society should stop making me feel bad about it” to the extreme of “nobody should have kids and people that do are child abusers”.

Sadly, they seem like a lot of broken people.

[–] disguy_ovahea@lemmy.world 15 points 3 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

Not broken. Just mentally unwell. We have a national mental health crisis. Normalizing and increasing accessibility to treatment is vital.

[–] GraniteM@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Also meaningfully addressing the underlying causes of an enormous amount of anxiety. Therapy is good for and should be easily available to everyone, but you can't therapy your way out of rampant climate change, wealth inequality, and governmental rot.

[–] disguy_ovahea@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Well adjusted people would be more inclined to believe experts in their respective fields than thinking they know everything. They’d also be less susceptible to fearmongering propaganda.

It wouldn’t fix anything overnight, but it would certainly improve everything over time.

[–] shiroininja@lemmy.world 24 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

I don’t know if it’s mentally unwell to not want children or to question the sanity of having children in this current society or other such situation like the poverty 2/3rds the world experiences.

As a parent, I feel guilt for my child to have to put up with this bs, especially in the workforce that I have dealt with in the 21 years I’ve been working. This shit sucks, and I hate living in this capitalist society we’ve built. There’s no logical way to escape it and just live freely.

And I’m poor in America. It’s even worse being poor outside of America. I honestly think it’s mentally unwell to keep having children in those circumstances.

And let’s add some context before I get chewed out by the smiling happy NT people:

I am autistic. My son is autistic. Life is very difficult and stressful every day because society was not built in any way that fits us. We have priorities and needs that run completely opposite of American society, its economy, its structure. The toiling for ten hours, coming home in the same traffic, raising kids until night, getting an hour to yourself, then bed to just wake up and do it all again for 40 years just feels like death.

And who wants to be forced to subjected to that?

[–] disguy_ovahea@lemmy.world 12 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

Acting upon a perceived moral imperative to prevent others from procreation demonstrates a lack of interpersonal boundaries. Mentally fit people don’t kill themselves in fertility clinic explosions.

[–] shiroininja@lemmy.world 17 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

Well obviously that individual was mentally unwell. But the sentiment that one shouldn’t have a child by their own choice due to environmental circumstances by itself isn’t mentally unwell.

I don’t believe people should make that choice for others, but it shouldn’t be seem so abnormal if one does feel that way because, well, *gestures around wildly *

[–] otp@sh.itjust.works 16 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I think you were talking about people who believe in not having kids, and the other commenter was talking about people who want to blow themselves up to prevent others from having kids.

[–] shiroininja@lemmy.world 9 points 3 days ago

You are correct 🫡

[–] disguy_ovahea@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago

Agreed. This place is a nightmare. Lol

It would be a whole lot better if more people took care of their mental health, and we didn’t elect psychopathic narcissists into the highest office in the US.

[–] SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 5 points 3 days ago (2 children)

One could argue forcing a child to be born into a dying world "demonstrates a lack of interpersonal boundaries."

[–] Soggy@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Ah, you're also an ecofash doomer anti-natalist, that's why you're defending this guy.

[–] SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world -2 points 2 days ago

Not ecofash

Not a doomer

Not an antinatalist

Sorry

[–] disguy_ovahea@lemmy.world 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Do you believe someone other than the parents should be empowered to make that determination?

[–] SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 8 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I believe anyone who is capable of processing our current reality and the course we are heading down, who still chooses to create a life, is knowingly performing a selfish and immoral act.

[–] disguy_ovahea@lemmy.world 8 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

That’s fair, but I was asking if you believe it’s ethical to enforce that opinion on others.

[–] SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 5 points 3 days ago

I think it's ethical to shame them for prioritizing their own desires over the life of their child.

I don't think it's ethical for laws to decide who can have children, but I also think letting anyone have children is not sustainable for our species. So ideally a solution to overpopulation is an educated population that makes their own individual responsible decisions.

If i were given total control I would probably force aspiring parents to adopt until there are no unwanted children left. Then we can think about making more

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