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"NO BI GIRLS". I get why women fear this but this phrase doesn't say a lot about her tolerance.
Demands about the kind of message they want. I've seen a few women say things like "if you want a message back you've got to say more than just 'great tattoos' it has to be a really stimulating opener". Ffs when you've got a 3 line profile I don't have a lot to go on!
Men with any kind of aggression towards women in their profile.
Men with jokes about women that have a nasty streak.
So...many...
I understand what you're saying, however as a lesbian the last time I tried dating online I had lots, and I mean SHITLOADS, of nice chats with women who, after a week of working up to ready for a RL date, then dumped on me that they're happily married and were looking for a side piece / unicorn / partner in cuckolding / you name it.
This was with a thorough profile that clearly stated that I was looking for a monogamous life partner who was a woman or somewhere on the fem to androgynous spectrum.
I also had lots of messages from men, even though my profile was set to receive messages from women only.
In 6 months of trying every day I'd managed one date that went badly. It was bad enough that I gave up on the idea and deleted my profile, and was on my own for a year ... then I met my now-wife while doing a sociable hobby. She's bi, and not weird about it.
Fuck online dating, and fuck any women who attach "bi" to their self descriptions who just want to treat lesbians like a sex toy. It's their fault we have to put that in our profiles.
I'm a bi woman and the same keeps happening to us, too. It has nothing to do with bi or lesbian, there are just shitty people out there. The second I put "bisexual" in a profile I got flooded with requests for threesomes from both men and women.
I'm guessing it hurts even more if those people are appropriating your chosen identifier in order to prey on others :-(