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I think it's better to separate and be honest with kids that things change in people's lives, than to keep pretending. The social lies wear on kids, they're still developing and things subtly being wrong fucks them up I reckon. Do you guys have support networks where one of you could take off for a weekend leaving the other alone from time to time? Go stay with a parent or friend occasionally just to get/give each other some space?
for reals, I grew up in a fighting house and the goddamn divorce (and this was in the 1980's, so social stigma wahoo) was a goddamn relief.
I was five at the time.
My mum tossed my piece of shit dad when I was 18 months old. She came home late from work to an empty house, with me alone crying for however long.
Mr P has rural people he can stay with if needed. I don't want to leave the kids just at the moment. Also Mr P often spends the whole evening outside in his mancave smoking and watching movies so we're not exactly in each other's pockets as it is.