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First : sorry you are going through this.
Second : yes most guys won't get the support they need. It sucks.
Third : yes you have shitty people around you
The people who you thought were your friends aren't. Forget about them. Forget they exist. They aren't worth your time.
Figure out what you like to do and join a club or group and move forward. Not just get over it. In that new group look for support there. Look for better friends there.
Thanks.
Yeah I'd be there for my bros if they went through this.
Yea, I have been there for several friends that went through this. If it really is how you say then those people kind of suck atm. Maybe ask one why before you write them off though. Better to know for sure vs remaining angry with people.
OP mentioned in another comment he went alt-right for a bit and came back.
I wouldn't be there if a friend went off the deep end. I would however call him out for his views and tell him to fuck off vs just ghosting.
Ahh well if that's the other shoe dropping. I'm always skeptical of folks that never bring up their flaws in the history. OP if that's true you should own it, and apologize for those beliefs. It's possible these people were done with you before the divorce.
He commented below with it. Might wanna reply there.
Good on you. In my experience no matter how much you're there for bros, as soon as shit hits the fan for you it's "sorry, I'm not really good with that stuff lol" and then they just kind of disappear until you're magically better.
It's also not easy to just write people off from your life for being shitty when you're down and then be left with nobody. People act like "find better friends" is easy. Finding friends at all is hard for most people.