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I got divorced like 5 months ago after a 9 years with this girl who cheated on me, emotionally abused me, etc etc

I've been suicidal since the split, getting worse by the day still, and literally nobody ever asked if I was OK, aside from my mom. Even when I begged close friends for support they basically just ghosted me. My ex is surrounded by support, from the same people who I thought were my best friends.

Do I just have shitty people around me or is this just what guys deal with? The attitude towards me is just "get over it". I've lost almost everyone I'm close to because of this and I'm starting to think there might actually be one viable option of getting over it because existing is simply torture. All of 2025 felt like just a bad dream but it's unfortunately real.

Edit: Yes I have a counselor - a very good one I see weekly.

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[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 74 points 1 day ago (6 children)
[–] Landless2029@lemmy.world 30 points 1 day ago (5 children)

Yeah I'd be there for my bros if they went through this.

[–] Sprocketfree@sh.itjust.works 15 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Yea, I have been there for several friends that went through this. If it really is how you say then those people kind of suck atm. Maybe ask one why before you write them off though. Better to know for sure vs remaining angry with people.

[–] Landless2029@lemmy.world 17 points 1 day ago (1 children)

OP mentioned in another comment he went alt-right for a bit and came back.

I wouldn't be there if a friend went off the deep end. I would however call him out for his views and tell him to fuck off vs just ghosting.

[–] Sprocketfree@sh.itjust.works 15 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Ahh well if that's the other shoe dropping. I'm always skeptical of folks that never bring up their flaws in the history. OP if that's true you should own it, and apologize for those beliefs. It's possible these people were done with you before the divorce.

[–] Landless2029@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago

He commented below with it. Might wanna reply there.

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