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I don't have a problem with porn, and I wouldn't erase it from existence if I could.
But as a parent, I do have concerns that porn creates unrealistic and unhealthy expectations when it comes to relationships. Children don't have the context or experience to fully understand what they are seeing. And it's so much more complicated than Playboy and Skinamax that we had when I was growing up. As adults, when we watch porn, we self-filter for the things we enjoy and activities we like to see, so it's easy to ignore how much weird and shocking shit its just a click away. Modern porn also hyper-fixates on very specific trends that drive engagement. It's part of the algorithm now, and if you want your kids to have healthy relationships, you need to keep their internet access locked down tight.
So I can understand why it was number 1 on the list. I would put guns as a more significant and dangerous risk for kids, but there are some gun enthusiasts who want their kids to learn gun safety and think that's enough.
I put more blame on parents that are not teaching their children proper internet hygiene or themselves are not learning how to properly moderate their own internet usage.
Maybe learn to install ad blockers and don’t use toxic social media platforms that run off fake engagement and algorithmic slop to push ads.
But what about the corporate fomo???! Who gives a shit. It’s your responsibility to learn how technology works and to make the right decisions about educating your child on internet safety and sexual education in general.
Anyone letting their kids onto instagram, TikTok or facebook without any kind of moderation is digging their own hole.
I've gotten into this a few times with Americans and the common theme is refusing to take responsibility for their kids tech illiteracy and social media influenced right wing swing. The Millennial legacy.
It’s always “Won’t somebody else think of the children? Not me! I’m too busy to raise my own kids.”
Pervert here, I’ve watched all the weird and shocking shit just for kicks. Nothing really that bad. Although the frequency of incest stuff is worrying. I can understand your stepsister. But who is fantasising about banging their mom or daughter. I’ve had unfiltered access to the web since I was 12 or so, although porn then loaded very slowly. Relationships have been fine.
People like Jordan Peterson and Andrew Tate are a thousand times more damaging to prospects of a healthy relationship.
I completely agree on that last point, but they're yet another reason to filter youth access to the internet and social media.
And yes, you can watch porn and have healthy relationships. I should have been more clear. It's not that porn will create unhealthy attitudes and expectations. It can create unhealthy attitudes and expectations. This effect can also be mitigated if you model healthy relationships and talk to your kids about sex, but that's something people often struggle with.