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At 19 years it's high time to be curious about nsfw stuff. For most people it starts way earlier than that (from 7 typically), but it takes a while to figure out what it means and what it's safe to do about, even more so in a high-strung environment (which religious people often create).
Consuming porn is entirely normal, and an avenue of exploring sexuality. It's not a very realistic depiction: it's based in reality but about as accurate as getting career guidance from movies. That still leaves plenty to learn about what goes where, explore fantasy, different expressions of pleasure/lust/sexuality, besides the option of choosing material that is more real and/or educational.
If the material isn't appealing to you, feel free to change what you consume. Some porn and some expression might not be for you at this time; some will be from shame or ideas from your upbringing, some will just be from you and your sexuality. Try other topics, other creators, other styles, etc. Maybe it's the amount of penis, or botox, or the impersonality, or the body type, or the lighting, or anything really.
Consider trying different media formats, like video clips, movies, images, but also literature (stories, captions, books), anime/manga, erogames, chat, audio recordings (asmr, audiobooks, dramatisations, recordings), etc. I highly recommend using your own mind as well, daydreaming and/or even more actively exploring fantasy.
Of course also explore your body and responses. It's also a lovely thing to do together with people, and much easier if you can feel relaxed and safe enough with eachother to just explore/try stuff. Use barriers, learn about safer practices, and take care of yourself and eachother as you adventure together.