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Seems like there might be enough traction, so here we go!

Our first "book" shall be “The Ones Who Walk Away From Omelas” by Ursula K LeGuin.

It is a short story that is readily available online. If you cannot purchase it, rent it, or find it online please let me know and I will provide more information on how to get it.

Trigger warnings: emotional abuse, grooming, and child abuse

I would like to include some discussion questions that are community specific, and not generic book club questions, so these will likely be questions I ask regarding every work, subject to change of course.

Some things to think about while reading:

  • Do you think this work is told from a feminist perspective? Why?
  • Do you think the authors gender or gender identity affected their choice of subject, writing style, or perspective character?
  • Does the narrators gender or gender identity affect the work? If so, how?
  • Did this work change your opinion on anything? If so, what and why?

I don't know if I'll start adding generic book club questions, but if you'd like more general discussion questions of the works going forward, please let me know and I can include some. There's just a lot of discussion available already for this specific piece and I don't want answers to common questions to overshadow more nuanced discussions that center women which is why we're all in this community. Also, this is not a homework assignment. You can choose to address any or none of the questions posed here, or talk about your general thoughts or whatever else. Please feel free to pose your own questions in the comments as well. These should serve as a handy springboard if needed, but not a mandatory outline.

Our first movie will be Kpop Demon Hunters. There were some other suggestions, but I wanted to keep it a little lighter considering this months book has some serious trigger warnings and I wanted people to be able to participate in at least one of the two, even if they would rather not engage in heavy topics. This is an animated movie available on Netflix. I know this is a little exclusionary, but there are some other ways to watch it as well.

Trigger warnings: animated violence/gore, discussion of demons and the afterlife

Same as above: I would like to include some discussion questions that are community specific, and not generic movie club questions, so these will likely be questions I ask regarding every work, subject to change of course.

Some things to think about while watching:

  • Do you think this work is told from a feminist perspective? Why?
  • Do you think the authors gender or gender identity affected their choice of subject, writing style, or perspective character?
  • Does the narrators gender or gender identity affect the work? If so, how?
  • Did this work change your opinion on anything? If so, what and why?

I don't know if I'll start adding generic questions, but if you'd like more general discussion questions of the works going forward, please let me know and I can include some. There's just a lot of discussion available already for this specific piece and I don't want answers to common questions to overshadow more nuanced discussions that center women which is why we're all in this community. Also, this is not a homework assignment. You can choose to address any or none of the questions posed here, or talk about your general thoughts or whatever else. Please feel free to pose your own questions in the comments as well. These should serve as a handy springboard if needed, but not a mandatory outline.

Comments are spoilers territory. If you want to use spoiler tags in the comments, please do, but it is not required. If you venture into the comments please keep in mind this is a discussion thread for media so there will likely be spoilers.

Going forward This is a community project. I would like to get input regarding written works and tv/movies that would be a good fit for this. I will leave a comment on this thread that you can respond to if you'd like to offer a suggestion. One suggestion per comment please. You can comment multiple times though. I'd like to make sure the selections are widely accessible, so please add that information if you know for sure something is in the public domain or available online, as that makes it easier to recommend. Please vote on the other comments you see there. I'd like to pair heavier topics in one media with lighter topics in the other, just in case you're wondering why a specific piece was not chosen. Things like language or availability may also affect the selection. I'm also open to changing or adding discussion questions.

Thank you all for your interest. Excited to hear your perspectives!

PS: Even if you have seen or read the media before, I would encourage a reread or rewatch to best participate in the discussion!

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[–] Greercase@lemmus.org 2 points 3 months ago

It was likely an issue on my end interpreting. I took the stereotype thing as a critique on the concept of the film being feminist, which I should not have done considering your recent comment. For what it's worth, I think having some stereotype conformity and nonconformity makes the characters more realistic to me, but I can see how it can seem more like they're just a madlibs of stereotypes than real people to others.

I totally agree with your idea that it likely depends on who is talking about it. Now that you bring this up I feel like I need to add context to my statement. I think you are right to say it's not a "feminist" film. I think it qualifies as a "feminist kids movie" because my personal bar for feminism in children's media is quite low, but now that I think more about it, it really needs that qualifier "for a children's movie". I appreciate you adding that perspective. Using Miyazaki as a standard is so smart. Those works are definitely thoughtful explorations of characters that feel earnest in a way that defies framing as anything but honest. I am not sure how much commercialization affected the story as much as just the people writing it, but there's definitely an element of high tempo frantic excitement that is common in a lot of more commercial works whereas Miyazaki definitely wants you to sit with his characters. I went on a Lars von Treir kick years ago and came away from those films with a completely opposite perspective! Lol. I will have to watch them again and get back to you if my feelings have changed since.

Totally valid reasoning, not that you needed me to say that. The good place is an absolute gem. The only show I've rewatched in its entirety.

it is so much worse unfortunately than a single child being tortured - and even that seems too much

That resonates so deeply with me and likely with so many others here. Very well put.

Wow. I was addressing your comment as I was reading it and then I got to the remainder and quite frankly I don't know how to respond. The lengths you went through seem so profound. I'm sorry that the world is the way it is and has caused so much hurt in your life and the lives of so many and that it will likely continue to do so. For what it's worth, I think settling on a healthy acknowledgement of the issues and some personal responsibility, without allowing it to consume you is the best way to go about it. The line is different for everyone, but it seems like you have found or are finding yours and that's so important. I really respect your ability to evolve and grow to be better for those in your life and around the world. I really believe that if enough of us had that mindset real change could happen, and all we have to do as individuals is to embody that and demonstrate it for others. Thank you for that reminder.