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My take is either red hot or ice cold I have no idea, it's been rolling around in my head for a while now. The vibes are bad, the energy is off, and my pattern recognition alarm bells are ringing. Discourse is here.

Some of these memes that pit women against men in some gender war specifically assume a stance on gender binary that I don't think 196 has ever been keen on. I know I am not the first to call this stuff out as TERF bullshit on this place.

For context, Moldemort does not describe herself as a TERF with "radical-feminism" from the 60's. She sees herself as "a feminist", despite allying herself with far-right figures that are in explicit opposition to current goals. It really doesn't help with coalition building.

I know, I know that these are supposed to "just be memes", but I really don't think that some of these are "just memes" anymore. Beyond the regular agenda-posting, I am starting to think that the undercurrent of misandry in some of "those posts" are completely unironic, having gone from the rather typical loser-posting to straight up "I hate men". How on earth do you post that???? Is this really a common sentiment??? Why is this getting upvoted in a leftist space???

Maybe someone else can post the "tell us about your ex" thing or shitting toothpaste idk

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[–] odd@piefed.blahaj.zone 23 points 1 day ago (3 children)

i went through our recent and top posts for the last month and didn’t see anything close to that, are you sure it’s this 196? i have the others blocked and don’t know what they’re up to.

[–] Maxxie@piefed.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Did the same thing with the same result 🤷‍♀️ Without examples this just kinda looks like pearl clutching

[–] abs_mess@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 23 hours ago) (1 children)

Hi, yeah. It's not this community, more wider lemmy.world shenanigans and an absolute fire hose of content from a specific user. The post in question only stood out based on how egregious it was (green background, cursive, the phrase, dead center with a blurb following it.) Maybe I'm just going insane, but I just decided that I was going to get off of social media for a bit. I came back, and one of the most commented posts in the federation is more gender stuff, 80% violent crime, that one.

Why am I worried? Because it reminds me of 9gag. That's it. I dragged myself out of that hole years ago but I know that smell. I don't know how to explain it.

[–] Maxxie@piefed.blahaj.zone 7 points 21 hours ago

Idk I'm simply not seeing the posts you're concerned about

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