Sometimes I wonder how much this is a symptom of AuDHD specifically. ADHD people cannot hold "The Thought" but often just go with the flow anyway and it's not as important. ASD peeps can hold "The thought" and feel the pressure to express it. AuDHD people simultaneously cannot hold it and feel the pressure to express it.

[–] TimLovesTech@badatbeing.social 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I will perseverate on a topic going back to it because I need to info dump, but most people just don't care about things to the same level of detail. =(

[–] Banana@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 month ago (3 children)

You need autistic friends

[–] devfuuu@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Exactly. I feel at home when I'm talking with friends and jumping around topics and going back to conversations that were started 5 topics ago after having derailed into a sub topic. We all are just like "oh yeah, we were talking about that".

[–] Bluesheep@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

Hrm… when I am with my family (brothers and Sisters) our conversations are like this. Our partners find it a bit weird/intense/think we are always fighting but we think that’s just how it works…

[–] TimLovesTech@badatbeing.social 1 points 1 month ago

Yeah, but that is a task made more difficult by my reluctance to be social.

[–] persona_non_gravitas@piefed.social 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Question about autistic friends, how do they/you feel like when someone politely and moderately informed-ly disagrees with your take on the topic of choice?

Personally I love it when people question or even disagree with me, yay learning something new or a new perspective, but sometimes the intensity makes expressing disagreement or "uh, actually, that's a common misconception but..." feel offensive. (Yes, I know more/different aspects of a niche interest than an autistic friend of mine who is also into it, I'm as shocked as you are.)

[–] Banana@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Oh my friends and I argue for fun all the time! I actually find it a really forgiving space since we all struggle with things like RSD and I think it helps us learn to communicate when we are feeling things like that.

It's really refreshing and nice not to have to mask my autism as well.

Its also very interesting because we all have our different special interests to infodump about :) It's just a really colourful and loving group and it truly feels like a family (tbf we aren't all autistic but many of us are and even more of us are ND--def over 50%)

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