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My Friends Would Rather Have Their Guts Cut Open Than Be Like Me - [an Essay(ish)] (theestablishment.co)
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I stumbled across this while researching old feminist publications. I can't really explain why I liked it so much.

I don't agree with the author's perspective, but it's a point of view I'd never heard before, and she writes beautifully, with wit and humor and pain.

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[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 15 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Agreed. It's almost breathtaking. "I am happy with who i am i should get to be who i am but everyone else who doesn't like what i like for themselves is bad"

There is a lot of fatphobia, this is absolutely true, but the sheer self-centredness of the author buries that message utterly. For fuck's sake they literally open by taking their mother's concern over health issues and making it a slight at themselves.

HAES means be healthy no matter what your size, not "wheezing up stairs and prediabetic is healthy because i am built large"

[–] ZDL@lazysoci.al 9 points 1 day ago

There is a lot of fatphobia, this is absolutely true, but the sheer self-centredness of the author buries that message utterly.

This is why I stay faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaar away from the "body positivity" crowd, despite actually agreeing with them.

There's a disturbing percentage of that crowd that is all about "positivity for me, but not for thee" and I've had more than a few run-ins with people who called me "skeletal" because ... I'm only 10% over my so-called "ideal" weight.