Men's Liberation
This community is first and foremost a feminist community for men and masc people, but it is also a place to talk about men’s issues with a particular focus on intersectionality.
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Recommended Reading
- The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity, And Love by bell hooks
- Politics of Masculinities: Men in Movements by Michael Messner
Related Communities
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!askmen@lemmy.world
!mensmentalhealth@lemmy.world
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oh I get why it's called performative. It's a subtle way of emasculating them by saying what they do is performance, something commonly associated with women and femininity. It's a dog whistle to say they aren't real men.
Or to imply that the actions themselves are performative, that is, that they are not acting on genuinely held opinions or beliefs but rather are doing it purely as a courtship ritual. Which in some cases may be the case but as you say, using it as a blanket term really belittles anyone who believes in what they're doing.
Yup, this is the context where I usually hear the term used. That the person is pretending, just to get the date
I think the article did a good job of explaining why this is a problem. It also left off on a positive note:
Nah that’s in-group jargon. In social justice circles “performative” implies superficial behavior without proper motives. For example, Nike changing their logo to a rainbow variant during pride month to sell more shoes would be “performative support” of queer culture.
In this context, I would guess it’s tongue-in-cheek, self-aware humor, since such a broad stroke would be pretty obviously unfair to many gender-nonconformist folks (as if their preferred aesthetic is all just a ruse to get laid). It’s more likely they’re celebrating the trend of non-binary aesthetics, just doing it in a humorous way.