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It's insane how much time I lose to my job (slrpnk.net)

submitted 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) by The_Terrible_Humbaba@slrpnk.net to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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I'm in a field where remote work should be possible, but I'm not lucky enough to have landed such a job. I have to go to the office every single damn day.

It's an 8 hour job, but I have mandatory one hour lunch, so it's really 9 fucking hours. Comute is about an hour each way, so that makes 11h total. Oh, but wait, I take transport and have to wait some time for a bus one way or the other, so it's more like 11h30.

To wakeup and get ready for work I need 30 min minimum, but really 1h is better. So it's up to 12h, or 12:30. Let's round it to 12:15.

That's half my damn day. If I want to sleep for 8 hours, that leaves me 3h45min at most each day for myself. And I don't even get paid enough to move out. Which I guess is a positive in this case, because that way I don't waste my <4 daily hours taking care of tasks which my parents can help with (cooking, groceries, etc.)

Ironically, if I did get paid enough to move out I might be even more depressed.

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[–] The_Terrible_Humbaba@slrpnk.net 14 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (2 children)

Unfortunately I'm not that young. I'm at a point where I would like to have my own place, find someone, get married, maybe have kids in a few years. But I don't have the money, and much less the work/life balance necessary. There's been a couple of times where a girl asked if I have my own place, and it always hurts to answer.

[–] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 7 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

I don't know about your age or situation, but if you're old enough that you're taking care of your parents in a reasonable capacity, then you're no longer living with your parents, your parents are living with you.

[–] bootstrap@piefed.social 3 points 5 days ago

Mid to late 20's?

I think its quite shallow to judge someone based on their living situation - sounds like dodged bullets to me.

If its any consolation, my wife and I lived in a single room in her mothers house for several years before getting our own place. We were both living with our parents at the time we met, it sounds like you just havent found the right person for you. Don't rush to the next stage of life. Give it time, we all come from different walks of life and follow different paths.

I was on track to buy a van and start driving around Australia like the other people I mentioned until I met my now wife and everything changed.

Have a loose plan for what you want in life and keep an open mind. Things change all the time and what you think you might want one day will do a 180 the next. Adapt your life plan to suit and continue forwards!

After all, we as humans are just fancy blocks of carbon and water that talk and do dumb shit. Nothing really matters - we will be dirt and worms one day and the earth will keep spinning.