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This is how existence works, yes. Being happy means adjusting your wants to what you have.
“I'm just saying they don't need to have 30 dolls. They can have three. They don't need to have 250 pencils. They can have five.”
Oh I guess I should be happy that ICE only raided my neighbors and not me. Amirite?
No, numbnuts. It means you shouldn't be happy.
but you can't compete with them. you should really be adjusting your wants! be happy you are alive
Well...yes? Are you not happy you did not get raided? Would you rather have had that you also got raided?
My point is: Just because someone isn't "suffering as much as others" doesn't mean the stuff they go through (like the fears of ICE for example) aren't valid.
Both points are true:
BUT ALSO:
Because accepting status quo is like saying, "why are you complaining about trump? at least you aren't in taliban afghanistan or north korea"
Yes we all know...and clearly you're the only.one who didn't get it
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Fuck Buddhism, amirite?
If you're upset with my feedback, adjust your expectations.
That's exactly the point. I'm not upset because I don't expect people online to have any sort of sense. I adjusted that expectation long ago and I'm much happier for it.
But you seem to be assuming that I'm saying everyone should just drop their expectations and be happy. That's not what I'm saying. I'm saying that suffering is caused by desire. So if you can reduce your desire, you can reduce your suffering.
But many times you can't, or shouldn't, reduce your desire. I won't ever desire to be okay with what's happening in my country, for example. I choose to be unhappy with it.
So choose to be fucking unhappy. It's okay to be unhappy. I'm not going to judge you for it.
What's the difference between that and suppressing your true feelings? From my perspective, it just seems like a strategy for bottling up what you actually feel rather than letting your true feelings out. On the surface at least, it sounds like that's a recipe for it blowing up at some point in a much worse way?
The difference is changing your mind.
Mind expanding on that? Because to put it bluntly, part of it just sounds like giving up and stagnating.
That's up to you. It's your mind.
Example: I used to get really angry at people online when they were being stupid. My expectation of people was that they weren't stupid, or would at least listen and learn. That expectation needed to change if I wanted to enjoy being online. So I changed my mind. I no longer expect people to not be stubborn idiots. Some are, and that's ok.
Is it giving up? Giving up an expectation, yes. Did I give up trying to converse with the not stupid ones? Nope! And now I'm in a much better mood to do it.
Well I can definitely agree with that if it's minor things like these. After all, you're likely to not encounter this person after the conversation online. However, I think it's a very different context if the object in question is more concrete and something you can own to improve your QOL or more.
Isn't this a tenet of Buddhism?
Yep, that's all it is. Desire is the cause of suffering.
Which isn't to say you should never desire anything. Just know the price and choose.
yeah, people who live in the US of A should be just happy they are still alive!