I'm not a fan of electron either but the sad truth of the matter is that I could not get Lutris to do what Heroic did do for me without issue. Lutris might need more developers to integrate icoutils in a way which could help you and others, but it doesn't seem like anyone is in a hurry to code that together right now.

You could write a bash script to do the actions you're now doing manually? Bash is not too difficult to learn. Most of the syntax is human-readable and there are plenty of resources to go around to help you learn the basics.

If you don't want to do it manually, make a script to do it. :) Create a text file named something like fix-icon.sh, put it somewhere that's on your $PATH like /usr/local/bin (with sudo) or ~/bin (if that's on your path):

#!/bin/bash
set -e

# Give it a path to the *.desktop file on the command line, and it will be set here from $1
DESKTOP_FILE=${1:?"You need to specify the .desktop file as a command line argument"}
# The icon will go into your local ~/.icons folder
ICON_DESTINATION="${HOME}/.icons"
# Make sure ~/.icons exists
mkdir -p "${ICON_DESTINATION}"
# The icon will be named whatever the desktop file is named
ICON_NAME=$(basename -s.desktop "${DESKTOP_FILE}")
# The icon will use this name (both .ico and .png)
ICON_FILE="${ICON_DESTINATION}/${ICON_NAME}"
# The EXE file should be detected from the "Exec=" line of the .desktop file
EXE_CMD=$(grep '^Exec=.*' ${DESKTOP_FILE} | sed 's/Exec=//')
# Use python to break down the command to get just the EXE file
EXE_FILE=$(which $(python -c "import shlex; print(shlex.split(r'${EXE_CMD}')[0])"))

if [[ -e "${ICON_FILE}.ico" || -e "${ICON_FILE}.png" ]]; then
    echo "Error: An icon at ${ICON_FILE} already exists, not overwriting"
    exit 1
fi

# Extract the icon with wrestool from icoutils or however you prefer to do it
wrestool -x -t 14 "${EXE_FILE}" > "${ICON_FILE}.ico"

# Convert ico to png with imagemagick
convert "${ICON_FILE}.ico[0]" "${ICON_FILE}.png"

# Cleanup ico file we don't need anymore
rm "${ICON_FILE}.ico"

# Embed png icon into desktop file
sed -i "s/Icon=.*/Icon=${ICON_NAME}/" "${DESKTOP_FILE}"

Then chmod u+x /path/to/fix-icon.sh and do fix-icon.sh /path/to/whatever.desktop Should do the trick in most cases. I used some advanced magic in some of the variables to make it hopefully not fail for you if it runs into weird issues, but it doesn't actually need to be that complicated usually I just wanted to make sure it could handle some weird formats pretty safely. You can easily loop it on all .desktop files in a path if you want:

for DESKTOP_FILE in *.desktop; do fix-icon.sh "${DESKTOP_FILE}"; done

I love bash. :) python, coreutils, grep should be on pretty much any system by default. But you will need imagemagick, and icoutils installed for it to work.

Let me know if you have any trouble with it. I tested it on my system and it seems fine but I don't have any lutris desktop files so I can't test it properly. Good luck!