this post was submitted on 18 Apr 2026
10 points (91.7% liked)

Dating

387 readers
2 users here now

A community for discussing dating.

No product promotion. No memes. No gender war nonsense.

founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
 

Everyone talks about red flags, but what’s a tiny thing someone does on a first date that makes you instantly like them? For me, it’s how they treat the staff or if they have a funny story about their dog.

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[–] Paragone@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago (2 children)

One time I was in a hospital, visiting a friend after an amputation, & there was a post-op nurse whose mind/meaning/presence was drenched in both yoga & meditation: it had transformed her.

That made her mind feel deeper & slightly-hypnotic for me.

Different from any mind I'd ever felt before.

That deep current in her was wonderful.


Caveat: I don't date, & wouldn't inflict me on anybody, ever.

Not a fair relationship ( I'm an autistic blockhead, addicted to meditations, insights & understandings, not people ).

But if you ever come across such a someone, if that is what your senses are giving you, then you aren't alone:

others have perceived that same inner-wealth in someone, too.

_ /\ _

[–] prettykat@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

Also, that was such a beautiful way to describe someone. It’s rare to meet people who have that kind of 'stillness' about them, especially in a place as chaotic as a hospital. Thank you for sharing that, it’s a great reminder that a 'green flag' can just be someone’s pure energy.

[–] prettykat@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

Wow, what a vivid description. As an artist, I totally get what you mean about being drawn to a certain 'presence' or depth in someone. And hey, don't be so hard on yourself! Being into insights and meditation isn't a bad thing, it just means you have a world of your own. Thanks for the thoughtful addition to the post!