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So I (19F) have this friend (18F) who confessed that she had a crush on me. I turned her down. I also like a guy right now and prefer guys and want a boyfriend and am either bi with a heavy male lean or straight.

Recently, I found out one of her family members found her trying to hang herself so she got down and managed to slip the belt off so she wouldn't be questioned.

I am so confused. How is this not my fault for rejecting her? I won't say I will date her given I like men, but she says it's not my fault and she had a lot going on...

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[–] Shayeta@feddit.org 4 points 4 days ago

Did the rejection negatively affect her mental state, which in turn pushed her towards acting on dark thoughts? Probably.

Did you cause her hanging attempt? No, the hanging attempt was caused by her tying a belt around her neck and attempting to hang herself.

You are not responsible for the actions of others (in most cases).