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I don’t think I’ll ever have kids precisely because of how much work and responsibility they are. But if I ever have a kid, it would not be mine; this world is too fucked up to bring a new person into, I would instead adopt one of the many kids who need a parent
I heard from a social worker that adoption is kinda the easy way. Foster parenting is harder, as you get more difficult cases. In any way, children need good households to grow up in
i think because for adoption, it seen like getting a new puppy/kitten you can mold to your needs, and its mostly toddlers and babies, older children are less likely to get adopted. with a older child, they already have baggage with them, much harder to raise.
Yes, adopting older children is for sure more difficult and important
i think adoption is harder than fostering, you dont have to deal much with the child. but adoption you have to raise it as your own. also if you are going through "official"channels its very difficult.
Interesting debates to be had on state influence.
Like in "Silo" where even natural birth rights were given and taken by authorities with potential for abuse.
I would also argue that the ratio of unsuited parents is significantly smaller in people seeking adoption than in those that just happen to create children in their own.