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Remember kids, Tankies wants to undermine democracy - same as facists.

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[–] CatradoraSomething@lemm.ee 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)
[–] Stoneykins@mander.xyz 6 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I can tell, 70 comments in the 3 hours your account has existed lol

[–] CatradoraSomething@lemm.ee 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I made it to ask a question, it did not go over well. My friends tell me I speak suspiciously, this may not help.

[–] Stoneykins@mander.xyz 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Honestly its just when asking questions about the political beliefs people hold close to their identity, especially on forums where they are already defensive, you have to do the work to phrase your questions in particular ways that don't make anyone feel as though they are being disagreed with. If they feel like they are talking to a political opponent, they don't feel motivated to answer well, or answer.

I mean, you can do whatever you want, but I've found you can't get decent answers in places like this unless you do the emotional labor to make the people you are speaking to feel comfortable.

[–] CatradoraSomething@lemm.ee 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Yeah, I have not mastered this whole thing yet. I really didn't think I'd get such a backlash. Im just kinda moving around, poking holes in everything, trying to find the right place.

bahhh I can't make people feel comfortable and then ask something serious like that, i just want people to say the thing without connecting it to their identity as a person.

Thank you, sorry I was hostile.