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[serious] What are your most important boundaries you've learned to enforce? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by cheese_greater@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Nobody tells me what I'm going to do or where I will be going and when that happens

I am open to invitations or requests or suggestions where my involvement is desired or ostensibly necesary for somone else. But I will never respond to this as a statement of fact or in the form of a threat

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[–] CheeseBread@lemmy.ml 31 points 1 year ago (2 children)

If you are a giving person, you have to put a limit on how much you can give. Takers have no limit.

I have to remember to look out for myself because even though I'm trying to look out for a lot of people I care about, no one is looking out for me.

[–] sab@kbin.social 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

In my experience it's not so much about putting a limit as it is about avoiding takers and finding other givers. But one has to be careful not to be used. :)

[–] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

I feel like its still a useful exercise/practice to be able to reinforce one's limits and contingencies on a regular basis with those they are circumstance-bound to be close to or work with so they are able to do that universally and at all times

[–] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Can you share an anecdote about a recent triggering situation wherw you identified this at play?