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Seriously the stories I've read about dudes threatening to drive to womens house and murder them or something over rejections is insane.

Have any of the ladies here had to deal with a psychopath like that?

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[–] barrbaric@hexbear.net 10 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Overall great post, and this in particular is 100% accurate.

If you think about the typical men's friend circle, it's often mediated almost entirely around common hobbies and a once-common space (school, uni), and the conversations tend to be surface level and avoid anything particularly rough.

How would you describe the typical women's friend circle?

As for what is to be done... I personally think the concept of masculinity has so much baggage that we have to reject it and look for something beyond it.

[–] BrezhnevsEyebrows@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I don't think we have to reject the idea of masculinity altogether but I do think we have to reject our current understanding of masculinity and start over so to speak

[–] barrbaric@hexbear.net 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I'm guessing we mostly agree and that at the end of the day it comes down to semantics. Not much difference between disavowing all the qualities of masculinity as understood in modern culture in favor of new positive masculinity vs disavowing masculinity itself in favor of Masculinity 2.

[–] BrezhnevsEyebrows@hexbear.net 10 points 1 year ago

Sorry, when you said "something beyond" I wasn't sure what you meant so I thought I'd add my 2 cents. I completely agree with you

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