neurodiverse
What is Neurodivergence?
It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc
“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”
So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned
Rules
1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them
2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence
2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals
3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.
3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith
4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!
Further rules to be added/ rules to be changed based on community input
RULES NOTE: For this community more than most we understand that the clarity and understandability of these rules is very important for allowing folks to feel comfortable, to that end please don't be afraid to be outspoken about amendments and addendums to these rules, as well as any we may have missed
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Can't reply to all the comments so I'll just respond here. I truly appreciate the advice everyone is giving me!
I guess I was hoping there was some secret easy fix or something but I guess the truth is I'm gonna have to put some hard intentional work into addressing the issue. I think I'm still in the midst of a 3+ year long burnout that I need to address as well to figure out my sleep issues. I will try slowly weaning off weed instead of quitting cold turkey so that I can still get sleep and don't dysregulate myself even more. I'll start introducing some better sleep hygiene, turning off screens, going to bed at a consistent time etc. and trying some melatonin. I definitely need to be better about my diet and physical shape as well. Unfortunately the extended daylight hours during the summer do not help so I will also try to find ways to simulate night time earlier to help as well.
Thanks for giving me a space to talk about this stuff and get suggestions. I've been so heavily masking for so long that I think I'm genuinely learning for the first time what it means to take care of myself.
You'll get there.
For what it's worth I have only ever done the stuff I posted about, I still drink my coffee (has never made me wired), still have my night owl rhythm at weekends and all that, I stay on my screens until I go to sleep. I think I mostly just accepted I am wired different like this and love nights and just leaned into the few things that helps me spesifically to do what I must to survive this wage labor hell. But I don't like it that I have to do this. Figuring out the low dose melatonin took 3 years and I don't take it on weekends because I allow myself to be myself for these two nights a week. So mostly I am trying not to stress about making my sleep perfect or hygienic or whatever.
This is my complicated way of saying I hope you are kind to yourself and embrace the way you are just as you are. There's a reason neurodiverse folks like us can be called and become perfect neoliberal subjects and all of these ways we try to "fix ourselves to fit in" can in themselves turn into a bit of a burnout inducing mask/performance. At the end of the day we are probably never going to have an easy time with sleep in the neurotypical sense of "easy" if we have to do it on their terms, because there are no habits.
Thanks so much