I’m basically unable of crying due to emotion, and I wasn’t always like this, so I’m sure something went horribly wrong somewhere along the way
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I'm the opposite, I cry almost every day and only recently am learning to not be ashamed of it. Crying is a healthy emotional response, and something like this says "seek therapy," but I know how realistic that advice is these days 
I feel immense shame when I cry too, which happens about 5/7 days of the week. I think being made fun of for it has taught me to self isolate when I do finally break down, because I shut down when I'm around others, and then when I'm alone it bubbles up like a volcano and won't stop until I'm dehydrated and my face is all swollen. I think you're right that it's supposed to be a healthy emotional response, but damn if people don't make it seem like it's an overreaction, or worse, dramatic. Maybe we're lucky that we can even express such emotion? I hadn't really thought of it that way til now. I wish I could make a safe place where everyone could express their pain and feel some relief. Hugs to everyone 
Last time I had a proper cry was at my dad's funeral. I hadn't really had a proper one since his death. The wake was over and I was just looking through his photo albums. There was just one picture of him as a young man sitting in a tent, looking at the camera and grinning, and I just broke. I really needed it too. I literally soaked myself with tears. The kind of tears that literally spray out of your tear ducts. I felt so much better afterwards.
Sometimes I wish I found it easier to cry.
i only cried for real once on LSD, and when other people cry i have no idea how to respond
I'm the same. I can only remember crying once in the last 15 years and it's painful to even think about it.
My father was an abusive asshole who would mock me when I cried, so I'm sure it has something to do with that in my case.
I have heard that people find crying to be cathartic but I have zero idea what that is like. Crying just fills every sinus cavity with mucus and makes me feel like my eyes are slowly getting bored out of my head while my chest becomes more sore. It also delivers no endorphins and I never feel better even a little better for doing it by even the smallest degree. Is that sort of what you mean?
Yes! Sometimes it burns and sometimes it feels like a stabbing
Yeah yeah I’m traumatized but scared to think about my own thoughts/feelings
I have always remembered that tears are basically just blood minus the plasma so in many ways it is just kind of openly bleeding from the face.
The lack of catharsis thing seems genetic. Nearly everyone on my Mom's side of the family has the same thing.
Yes I find it very humiliating if I can't hold back my tears in front of others. I think because as a kid I was made to feel as if I'm being hysterical, ridiculous, or manipulative whenever I cried. So I try really really hard to hold it all in so I'm not "being dramatic" or "making a scene". Eventually if it gets bad enough, to the point of meltdown, I do end up making a scene, which makes me feel humiliated, and yes, it's traumatic to me.