It never really gets easier having ignorant parents. I hope you find a nice chosen family one day.
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I would so fucking love that, but I also have crippling social anxiety so meeting people is very ๐คท
Truth. My damage has been done.
"Is that what Jesus would say?"
I bet you the answer would be โyes.โ Thereโs actually not a doubt in my mind. Most problematic Christianโs I know donโt think what they think because Jesus. They think what they think and use Jesus as a bulletproof vest.
Maybe, "Is that what Jesus would want you to say?"
You don't have to associate with people just because you share genes. You're meant to like knowing them.
They're not all bad, just every now and then get one of these nuggets. Also, they're basically the only break we get from two small children, so It's a comicated situation, though I have been trying to come to terms with the idea that at least one kid(and me) have some stuff going on they may not accept, and while I May tolerate it more for myself, I have to be willing to add some space to protect the kids. I don't want to get into specifics but I hope that makes sense.
I don't want to part with them, but I know what my child might be feeling, and I really want to prevent any confusion or doubts that I may have had for lack of options or knowledge.
Also, somehow or another I guess itโs gotta come out.
Probably only recommended if you're financially independent and live elsewhere. If things go poorly, you need a way to be able to leave. And if you have those first two, it's probably best to do it slowly/gradually.
But for your first question, "That's horrible. Why would you wish that on other people?" is often a great go-to to make people introspect. They might not do it in that moment, but your kids calling your thoughts and desires horrible has a way of sticking with you. (Source: am a parent)
And if you don't live with your parents, you could even throw in, "What if I lived in California? Would you still wish for the hurricane?"
I'm sorry about that. I hope you find the freedom to find your own way in religion (or lack thereof) and not let it be defined by your ma & co.
Oh I've been out of it for 7+years now, no intention of returning.
Never seems to occur to people like this that they themselves are wicked, for holding such unwarranted hatred in their hearts. Untold millions of innocents have suffered horrible deaths at the hands of these fanatics.
"wicked people I can understand, but what did gay people ever do to you? "
I used to work a job for 2 weeks a year where i had to supervise 65 20 to 39 year olds. I hated it, mainly because getting thrown into 65 random men is never fun to me. Listening to a bunch of bigots and very often very racist people is the worst. I never told much about me, but often out of bordom, i made it seem that i'm gay. No one gace me shit for it, but they often made even more sure that i don't hear their funny jokes. Every now and then i would ask a random guy what even his fucking problem with gay people is. And bo joke, everyone had basically the same story: i don't mind gay people, as long as they don't hit on me, followed by how they once got hit on by a gay dude and almost killed him with their mighty fists.
These are some often right win very overweight and not attractive people at all. I used to hang out in gay bars a lot, and people are generally very nice in there and i often got drinks by some guys, but i got never just hit on in some random bar by a random gay guy.
Tl;dr almost every bigot i talked to has a story how a gay guy hit on them which made them very very angry.
Sounds like projection to me.
Right?! I'm not even 100 % sure if I'm gay but wtf ever I giess
Sometimes people are just hateful. A Christian I worked with was always very forward and speaking of god at least once a day. I lived in Panama City Beach in 2018 when Hurricane Michael came through. The storm turned to the East at the last minute and PCB they had been told to evacuate (many evacuated into Panama City being it wasn't told to evacuated which is to the East). Base of the story, PC got hit harder than PCB. Several times I heard that coworker saying he hoped another hurricane came and hit PCB (where he lived as well) because he didn't believe the people there had learned "gods lesson."
He didn't care how many people lost their homes and jobs.
If hurricanes are punishment, Florida really needs to get their shit together, because they get it way more than the rest of the country. Same for Oklahoma and tornadoes.
But when the Bible belt is being destroyed by tornadoes it's what, a test of faith?
They reach for whatever fits their narrative