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After finding out I'm a single parent: "He needs a dad!"
Mind your own fucking business. Lol I hate this town.
Also, very recently, I've been hearing so many adults refer to my kid as "absolutely gorgeous" and "ridiculously handsome", and it's been making me feel extremely uncomfortable. Probably my own hang-ups and experiences as a teen, so I just gotta deal with it for now. I typically just swerve the conversation to his accomplishments and personality traits.
Oh ffs... so many dads are horribly destructive it's about quality not quantity! And swerving to his achievements is great parenting, stops him feeling his value is wrapped up in what he looks like.
In people's defence: they can't know about things other than looks at first sight right? Redirecting the conversation might be exactly what they want too, so take it as an invitation to talk about your kid 😄
"This process is already known to the art."
Sometimes I get frustrated by the advice. I know they’re trying to help (and I’m guilty of it too), but sometimes I just need to vent about a problem.
I also get annoyed when people don’t respect my kid’s boundaries. Sometimes she doesn’t want to give a hug. She takes time to warm up. She isn’t that close to you. Telling her you’re sad and then pouting is emotional manipulation and it’s gross that grown-ass adults have less maturity than my three year old.
I know childrens bodies are not public property and they never have to touch someone they dont want to! Parents try to teach their child good boundaries for themselves and others then other people trample on them.
"It gets easier".
Yeah, I know, but that doesn't change the fact that it's hard right now and the future being whatever doesn't help. The challenges keep shifting constantly so that just when I feel like I have things figured out I'm faced with entirely new stuff to create solutions and strategize for. It also doesn't help because we're planning on having another one! So even if things get easier with kiddo one, we will be right back to the starting line with kiddo two. I know how tempting it is to say it but I'm tired of hearing it.
Yep, youve got an ever changing situation that there's no manual for and its hard. You're dealing with now not a few years from now AND youll be back to the start with child 2. It's kinda dismissive, and it's not nice being dismissed.